A Love Letter To My Husband: From Aiyana To Ayize

by Black Love And Marriage.com on March 15, 2013

in A Woman's Point Of View,Becoming One,Love & Marriage

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By Aiyana Ma’at

I wrote this love letter to my husband about 2 years ago. I’ve been in such a lovey dovey mood lately that I decided to print this out today and give it to my boo. After seeing how much it made him smile I thought about how easy it was for me to do that. It can be so easy to make our spouse happy if we just take a minute to pause and remember who they truly are to us and what they mean to us. Decided to run this again in hopes that someone will be inspired to stop, pause, and write a love letter to the one you love…

Ayize doesn’t know I’m doing this but I just had to…. I was so inspired by a song I heard yesterday on one of my Facebook Friends pages. It just made me think about my relationship with my bestfriend, my boy, my confidante, my lover, my husband—Ayize Ma’at and I knew what I needed to do.

Dear Ayize,

I’m taking the time today to make sure you know…… I want you to be ever so clear about the depth of my love for you and my commitment to you, our marriage, and our family. I need you to know the impact you’ve had on my life. Ayize, the love I have for you is overwhelming and indescribable. I heard a song yesterday by Kindred The Family Soul. It’s called “Stars” and I just “felt” it when I heard it. But, the reason I felt it baby is because of you. It’s because of you that the wounds that my “on again, off again” father left early on in my life haven’t stayed as deep and painful as they used to be. It’s because of you that today I can say that I honestly know what it feels like to trust someone completely. It’s because of your willingness to hold on tight and never let go that I know what commitment is really about in the first place. It’s because of your cool calmness that I have been able to really look at myself and learn new ways of being and communicating. It’s because of your ability to affirm me and allow me to be me that I have the self assured confidence that I have about myself….it’s because of you Ayize. When I begin to doubt myself and feel fear creeping up from behind I now know to deliberately stop whatever I’m doing, pause, and say to myself the words you first said to me “Just be”. It’s because you aren’t ashamed to say you love me, respect me, and see greatness in me that it makes it all the more easy for me to look at myself and find the greatness too. It’s because of your honesty with me…your willingness to call me out but then kiss me on the forehead or the nape of my neck that I have been able to learn how to accept and grow from criticism instead of letting it seep into my spirit and kill my self-esteem. It’s because of your vulnerability and your sharing your secrets with me that I feel and know that I’m important enough and worthy to be trusted. I love traveling life’s journey with you baby. So much of who I am today and have yet to be is because of you. Thank you King. I love you. Today. Tomorrow. Forever.

Here are the lyrics that inspired this letter. Listen to the song below.

Listen to the song below…

“We’ve come so far

Stars look up to you, baby

My heart belongs

Right here next to you, baby”

As always, leave a comment or submit a video response. Anyone out there inspired to do their own video love letter to their sweetie? Send it in and we’ll put it up! Here’s the song that inspired my love letter to my husband…..




Previously published. Running again in honor of Black Marriage Day, March 17, 2013!

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Erika March 17, 2013 at 7:13 pm

My husband just sent me this link and it brought a warm smile to my face. Not only do we read your blog religiously we are HUGE Kindred and the Family Soul fans. In fact, "Stars" is the song we danced to for our first dance as husband and wife. We love it and it reminds me constantly of what I have and what I can look forward to.


2 Ayize March 18, 2013 at 3:39 pm

Thanks Sis….you gotta good man for sending you this : )


3 Aiyana_Maat April 13, 2013 at 5:09 pm

Hey Erika. Yes, this song is IT! :-) I love it. :-) Thanks for continuing to support our work. -Aiyana


4 Jackie Holness March 15, 2013 at 5:52 pm

Wow…I too am inspired by the y'all have for one another…May God continue to bless your union…I do wonder Aiyana how you picked your husband as I understand a lot of women pick men to marry that remind them of their fathers…


5 Aiyana March 16, 2013 at 7:06 pm

Hi Jackie…..I actually do see many qualities of both my father and stepfather in my husband. My biological father was a successful serial entrepreneur and Ayize is the same way. Entrepreneurship is in his blood. My stepfather is a very sweet compassionate laid back people magnet and yes….so is my hubby.You know….Ayize and I met while we were in high school and I certainly wasn't looking for a husband then. I really feel that our coming together was Divine Order. I don't believe anything happens on accident.


6 Briana @ 20&Engaged September 23, 2011 at 2:59 am

This is my favorite song by Kindred for sure. I just wrote 21 reasons why I love my husband and I recently told him I want one day a month where we tell each other extensively how much we love each other.
My recent post Happy 21st Birthday Hubby!


7 Melvin M. Whatley September 22, 2011 at 12:40 pm

Very nice! Wish more black men and women appreciated each other the way you two do!


8 Aiyana September 22, 2011 at 6:56 pm

Thanks Melvin. There are actually more black couples out here loving and appreciating each other than most of us realize. ;-)
My recent post What People Don’t Tell You About Marriage


9 Nicole September 22, 2011 at 9:31 am

This was beautiful Aiyana. Your love for your husband inspires me.


10 Aiyana September 22, 2011 at 6:57 pm

Awwww, thanks Nicole. :-)
My recent post What People Don’t Tell You About Marriage


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