Are You A Captain Save-A-???

By Gary Abra aka Untouchable Gary

“Captain-Save-A-Hoe”, is probably one of the least talked about Captain’s you have ever heard of,  yet we all know of at least one person!  This dreaded disease affects every race, color, creed, sex or handicap. Okay, if you’re unfamiliar with this syndrome let me explain. Basically, it’s when you encounter an individual that you sort of like, yet their extenuating circumstances cause you to feel sorry for them. Along the way you feel obligated to help (save) them from whatever hardships they are going through, and in doing so you fall in like, or love with them. I guess psychologically the nurturing affect causes nerves in brain to block out all of your “common sense” indicators, and you are left in an oblivious stupor that takes away all your deductive reasoning.

Need an example, just read Cinderella. She was broke, busted and disgusting but the prince went out of his way to save her. Or you could even just with “Pretty Woman”, where Julia Roberts plays a prostitute and the handsome rich guy wants to get her off the streets and live happily ever after. It’s not only women but men too. In the movie “Two can play that game” the woman meets a busted mechanic (bobby brown), cleans him up, fixes his teeth, cuts his hair and “wifes” him up.

Some people just live for the thrill of turning this crazy world around for everyone that they meet. Don’t get me wrong, just because someone is currently down on their luck doesn’t mean that they aren’t a good person and deserving of a break every once in a while. The downfall occurs when you start trying to make and mold them into your perfect match.  Sometimes you just have to let nature run its course and allow people to succeed or fail on their own accord. When the thrill of helping them is gone what do you have left? Chances are you will have lost interest and be ready to move on anyway!

So don’t go wasting time trying to turn a lemon into a lime…


Keep Rockin’

Gary Abra is author of “Knowing The Game“, found on,, and

4 replies
  1. Drellz
    Drellz says:

    New to the site, and loving what I see and read so far… Thank you very much.

  2. Ellen
    Ellen says:

    What about grace? Not that you are trying to save anybody but i think it's a good thing to have grace and patience during the process of change.

    • untouchablegary
      untouchablegary says:

      you should never try to change someone, i think that's a trap that a lot of people tend to fall into that leads them to a disappointing situation in the end. I believe that people have to have the time to change on their own accord and not be forced into a situation that they dont really want to be in.
      My recent post Mixing business with pleasure…

    • @newnaturally
      @newnaturally says:

      You can have grace and patience from a distance…you don't have to be in a relationship with someone who needs fixin. I found that the more I tried to 'fix' ppl, the more they expected me to do so or the more they resented me.

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