VIDEO: A viewer who is a new wife and new mom recently wrote in and shared how overwhelmed she is with her two new roles (and all the responsibilities they bring) . She says the one thing she would love to have is about an hour each day to herself to do whatever she wanted….sit and do nothing, watch mindless TV, have a drink…whatever! The problem: she feels guilty for wanting, in her words, “to get rid of baby and hubby”. Ok, so my (Aiyana’s) initial thought was….Get over it!! Take an hour, shoooot take 2, have 2 drinks, watch some dumb TV and feel good about it. Early on in my marriage, 1 child in, my husband used to make me so mad because he would routinely make sure he took him some ‘me ‘ time. He would let me know “I’m getting ready to take a nap for a couple of hours” or “Going to the movies baby, be back later”. I was secretly jealous of how easy it was for him to take time out for himself. When I would show my irritation he would simply look at me and say “Nothing’s keeping you from doing the same thing baby…that’s on you”. So, now 4 children later I am crystal clear on the importance of taking some intentional time out just for me. It’s not an option now….it’s a MUST.
What I know now that I didn’t know then is this: When you enter into a relationship you give up some of yourself to achieve a common goal. However, in the midst of merging two lives it’s crucial that you find space to maintain some sense of who you are so you can bring your best to the relationship. A video we did awhile back really breaks down yet another basic relationship requirement: “ME TIME”. Drop a comment or submit a video response letting us know what you think.