It’s Good To “Go Through” Before You Say I Do

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VIDEO: You never really know a person until you witness them handling hardship. If you are thinking about taking your relationship to the next level pay close attention to how your partner deals with difficulty, disagreements, and rejection. How they cope in moments of mild or significant conflict will help you decide whether this person is the one you truly want to spend your life with. Most folks we know try to avoid pain & conflict at all costs. But, we believe conflict is a normal and natural thing. Yes, we will even go as far as to say it’s a GOOD thing. Does it feel good? No. Is it necessary? Yes. If we never experience the strain and stress of pain and conflict with the one we say we love then we never get a chance to truly experience the remarkable healing power of forgiveness, repair, and emotional and spiritual maturation with another person. I once read somewhere that if you are comfortable you are not growing. While most of us would love to stay in La La land with our sweethearts 24/7 that is just not possible and we would dare to say it just isn’t healthy either. We believe one of the greatest gifts of our most sacred relationship is its ability to help “grow us up” mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We are not supposed to stay the same. We are all supposed to evolve and the one we love more than anything yet gets on our last nerve at the same time is the perfect one to help us do it.! At the end of the day it’s really OK to “go through” before you say I DO.

Go Ahead And Give Him Some…

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VIDEO: It’s easy to do the same old thing and not challenge yourself to move beyond what’s comfortable….especially when it comes to SEX. However, what’s easy ain’t always right. Do something different….initiate sex with your man, get creative, and turn him out. If you are still the same in the bedroom and the sex ain’t changing that’s not a good thing. If it rarely happens in your house…that’s even worse. Get beyond yourself and go ahead and give him some…

A Moment Of Intimacy Knee To Knee…

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VIDEO: It’s good to take time in your relationship to connect in the midst of the busyness of everyday life. We have to B Intentional about making time to “get still & get connected in” with our partner. Sometimes that moment of intimacy where ears and hearts are open is experienced during a back rub, a foot massage, or…as we show you in this video…Knee to Knee. B Intentional about checking with your souse and exploring what’s on each other’s spirits. Take a peek inside of our relationship as we demonstrate this exercise to you and then commit to trying this in your own relationship. It certainly can’t hurt! It’s a good thing….your relationship is thirsty for it.

Can A Long Distance Relationship Work?

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VIDEO: There are several core areas in a relationship that require tending to in order to increase the probability of success. If you toss long distance into the equation then some unique challenges will definitely arise. Can a long distance relationship work? Yes…we did it. Was it difficult? YES, BUT WORTH IT. Listen in for 3 quick tips on managing and caring for a long distance relationship.

How Do I Tell My Man The Sex Sucks?

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VIDEO: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby!!!! It’s a normal and healthy expectation in a marriage to be satisfied sexually. Oftentimes, people are frustrated and disappointed with the poor performance of their partner. So, exactly how do you express your dissatisfaction? Here, we give a young lady some suggestions on how to bring this subject up with her partner so that she can move 1 step closer to ecstasy. Aiyana also gives an example from her relationship with Ayize to his surprise! FUNNY!!! Check it out, learn, and laugh!

I Submit To You

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VIDEO: Do you submit to your spouse in your relationship? Do you make sacrifices that show the relationship is about the both of you vs. just one of you. It’s a beautiful thing when your spouse recognizes and affirms your brilliance, beauty, and potential and then unapologetically says I SUBMIT TO YOU. My wife, Aiyana, told me she submit to me the other day….man, I can’t begin to tell you how that feels….but I’m going to try. Listen in.

Relationships Rule The World

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VIDEO: Remember C.R.E.A.M.? Ok, maybe…maybe not. But, when WuTang dropped this acronym many people wholeheartedly embraced the mantra and made money their PRIORITY. Many people excluded the value in their current situations and elevated money to a reserved space of exclusivity. Society does the same thing with sex. Herein lies the problem…we think Money or Sex rule the world when really…Relationships Rule The World. So, if relationships rule the world shouldn’t they be the things we focus on, nurture, and protect most? If you’re trying to get to a certain level of success what is the most reliable and solid way to get there? Relationships. From the relationships with our loved ones to the relationships at work—when we take time to be intentional about giving to our relationships we are rewarded beyond expectation. Can’t see it? Check out our viewpoint on this and let us know what you think.

How Long Is Too Long To Wait For The Ring?

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VIDEO: In this video we answer a letter from a young lady who is in love and is sure the feeling is mutual. However, they have been dating for 3 1/2 years. She wants to know “How long is too long to wait for the engagement ring?” Here, Ayize and Aiyana talk about how important it is to move beyond being preoccupied with the length of time you’ve been dating and be just as concerned with what’s going on in your relationship. Are you connecting, moving, and growing both individually and together? At the same time, let’s not get it twisted….there is a reasonable time frame in which we feel a healthy couple should be upgraded from simply boyfriend/girlfriend to Fabulous Husband & Wife!

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Stay In The Ring When You Want To Step Out

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VIDEO: It’s natural and normal for relationships to hit rough spots. When those times occur how do you handle them? Do you step up to the challenge or step off? Oftentimes, if you stay in the ring long enough….you get tired of holding your hands up. You begin to see more clearly through your hurt and pain and subsequently increase the possibility for healing and resolution. However, if you step out of the ring and refuse to confront  conflict….your likelihood for reconciliation instantly evaporates.

I Thought I Married A Psychic

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VIDEO: One of the unspoken and unreasonable expectations we have in our relationships is that our partner possess the ability to read our minds……and we get upset when they can’t or don’t. That is so unfair! However, hidden beneath the surface of this expectation is the raw emotional need for intimacy. Listen in as the Ma’at’s discuss how unreasonable it is to expect him or her to read your mind…yet it’s completely reasonable for him or her to pay focused attention to you so that they can get an in depth understanding of how your mind, body, and spirit work.