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Yup, it’s Cyber Monday and we’ve got some discounts for you.  To give our west coast BLAM Fam an opportunity to take advantage of these deals, the discounts will expire on 11/27/12 at 3am EST.  Please do not delay……here’s an opportunity for you to take advantage of an awesome opportunity.

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RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT 30% OFF

If you find yourself in your relationship on a regular basis confused, angry, uncertain, detached, or sad and you genuinely want to know, “Where are we going from here??  We have the answer for you.  We, Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at have created a Relationship Assessment Questionnaire that will give you insight about you and your relationship by exposing underlying strengths and weaknesses of your relationship dynamic.  Along with asking thought provoking questions, we provide a 1-2 page assessment within 24 -72 hrs detailing what we think about your answers and how they relate to the pertinent issues you’re currently having in your relationship.

We know confusion is NO FUN so we aim to assist you in achieving clarity whether you choose to remain in your current relationship or decide to end it.    We understand that peace of mind is of utmost importance to you therefore we are making a commitment to you to be honest, direct, and sensitive about your situation in our assessment.  We want what’s best for you. Our objective is simple…we want to help you be healed, happy, and whole.

Francis Hosein

You may be doing things in your life that are showing to you and others that you are financially irresponsible and it is difficult to stop the train wreck in your life with your family.

 

Hard to change your life style

 

You may want to give your children what you did not have as a child growing up because you have scars of hurt that you hope your children will avoid.

 

Indulge yourself

 

You indulge yourself in material things hoping it will bring you greater joy and happiness and not thinking about the price it is costing you and your family.

 

Lead this family

 

As parents you are given an opportunity to lead your family in a way that they will feel proud of themselves and feel good about getting your family out of financial difficulties.

 

Parenting children out of guilt

 

Parenting children out of your guilt is not helping them for a better future in fact you are crippling their future.

 

You give them all the things you feel what you miss out on growing up and this is stopping them from learning about their talents and creativity that may be use to help them attain their goals.

 

How far do you need to go

 

How far do you need to go before you say stop I am hurting myself and my family by worrying each month how you are going to make it.

 

Trust your partner to tell you the truth

 

Do you trust your partner to tell you the truth about you’re over spending and what it is doing to the family?

 

Do you allow yourself to open up to other family members to tell you the truth about what price they are paying for your irresponsibility in finance?

 

Are you willing to sit down with your family and ask the hard questions about what you or someone you love is holding back the family?

 

Impress people

 

Imagine right now you are putting your family in debt to impress people you do not know anything about does that seem like a healthy way for your family?

 

You want to look good for people that you pass in the street and so you are willing to keep up an image of looking wealthy or have more than enough and in the meantime behind close doors you are having difficulty with your bills.

 

Greater knowledge

 

In general women need greater knowledge about their family income and if you are staying out of the family expensive and are waiting until it becomes too dangerous for your family it is time to make a big step and get involve.

 

You need to know how much your husband is earning and to work together as a team to bring your finances to a place that you can feel good about for the future of you and your children.

 

Asking questions such as how much you have in savings, is there insurance for the family, do we have an emergency fund, life insurance—all of these things are good to know in case of an emergency.

 

Free up money- downsize

 

The ability for you to free up money in your life means that you will need to downsize.

 

Having a plan of action for you and the family working together to accomplish financial goals can be rewarding for everyone involved.

 

When you choose to get real about your spending and allow yourself to get help and look at how your financial irresponsibility has cost lots of emotionally difficulty for your family this will be the time to create new and better lasting change that will lead your family to a healthier financial life.

 

Conclusion : If you find yourself being financially irresponsible and it is costing you a high price with your family to the point of losing them maybe you need to take a look at how you are going about showing your love to your family that is not working.

Francis Hosein is the owner of trans-formers.com if you want more information on debt free in your life you can find it at: http://www.trans-formers.com/debt-free.html

Small Business Saturday SPECIAL!!! Get Our “Sex & Intimacy” Audio Program Today!

How many times have you desired to be intimate with you partner but were paralyzed by FEAR OF REJECTION?  How many times have you heard or felt, “YOU DON’T TOUCH ME ANYMORE”?  How many times have you wanted to say “KISS ME HERE, HOLD ME LIKE THIS, or WHISPER SOMETHING SWEET IN MY EAR”? How many times have you sat next to your spouse, wanting to MAKE LOVE and wanting your spouse to WANT YOU just as bad as YOU WANT THEM?  Real talk yall, some of yall are SUFFERING in your sex life because you’re SCARED.  You’re scared to take a risk and share what you desire in the bedroom.  You’re scared to take a risk and ask how can you better satisfy your spouse.  You’re scared to come outside of your comfort zone and do what’s necessary to reconnect and get close with your spouse.  You’re scared of being hurt, embarrassed, or dismissed.

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We receive countless emails from couples across the country that are sulking in quiet desperation because they can’t seem to find the connection they once had.  They understand that the intimacy is absent, that the fire has faded and their romance needs revitalization. Truth be told this may be you. AND THAT’S O.K.  Awareness of a problem is the first step in changing the problem and the fact that you’re on this page tells us that you want to learn how to MAKE LOVE RIGHT.

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–  How to bring up sexual issues in your relationship

–  Finding your comfort zone with your own sexuality

–  The importance of “doing it” even when you don’t want to

– You’re not the only couple with sex and intimacy issues

What we just shared is really just a piece of what you’ll get from purchasing this audio program.  Truth be told it’s really an experience.  You’ll get an opportunity to be challenged, encouraged, inspired, and supported as you attempt to improve the quality of your sex and intimacy by learning to MAKE LOVE RIGHT.  It’s not a game yall…take your love life to the next level.  You deserve it. Your partner deserves it.  Your relationship deserves it.  Purchase MAKE LOVE RIGHT.

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Is It O.K. To Masturbate While You’re Married?

By Michael Ashworth, Ph.D.

There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty for masturbating even though you are married. Most men and women do indeed continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship, and it does not mean that there is anything wrong. In fact, research shows that those people who masturbate more also have more (and more satisfying) sex.

People have sex, as well as masturbate, for all sorts of reasons. Often men and women feel like having an orgasm or pleasuring themselves as a quick stress reliever, as a “pick-me-up”, or just because they are very aroused but don’t want to go through the whole process of sex.

Masturbating is also a great way to learn about your own body, which invariably makes for better sex with a partner. Men can use masturbation as a way to learn how to control their orgasms, while women can learn how to have orgasms more easily.

Sometimes people feel that if everything was perfect in a sexual relationship, then neither partner would “need” to masturbate. Nothing could be further from the truth. Simply put, good sex begets more good sex — in all its forms. In fact, many couples masturbate together and find it a very enjoyable part of their relationship. Honestly, there is no need to feel guilty. Listen to the good doctor: Masturbation is good for you!

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DC! Join Us This Tuesday Night Nov. 20th For Some Real Talk. The Topic? “You Cannot Be Influential Unless You Accept Influence. Exploring The SKILL Of SUBMISSION In Marriage.”

By Aiyana Ma’at

VIDEO: S-U-B-M-I-S-S-I-O-N. Just uttering this word 9 times out of 10 causes the atmosphere to get tight, people to shift to defensive postures, and otherwise rational and reasonable people to get a little (ok…let’s be real…sometimes a lot) carried away. This can be such a complex issue for folks….

Just what is submission anyway?

Does the submitter get anything out of submitting?

Are women the only ones who are supposed to submit?

Is there a such thing as mutual submission?

Is the act and art of submitting outdated, antiquated, and irrelevant in the 21st century?

Come find out as we hash it out, talk it out, and put everything on the table in what will be a not soon forgotten experience. Be prepared to come, have fun, and  leave with life-changing lessons. 

WHAT: “You Cannot Be Influential Unless You Accept Influence. Exploring The SKILL of SUBMISSION In Marriage”

WHEN: November 20, 2012 7pm-9pm

WHERE: Union Temple Baptist Church; 1225 W Street, SE Washington, DC 20020

FOR MORE INFO CALL: 202-599-0234 OR 202-678-8822

 

Don’t Ignore This! Black Women Need Earlier Screening For Breast Cancer.

By Drahcir Semaj

Breast cancer is the second leading cause of death for women, ages 40-55, and African American women under the age of 45 are more likely to develop breast cancer than any other group of women in the US.

Every three minutes a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer; every 12 minutes a woman dies from breast cancer and every year over 5000 African American women die from the disease.

Although the cause of breast cancer is still unclear, researchers have determined that African American women tend to develop breast cancer at earlier ages than white women and they typically develop more aggressive types of tumors.

Breast cancer often occurs in African American women under the age of 40 and as early as age 25.

In a study of breast cancer tumors in African American and white women, conducted by the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center in 2004, researchers determined that breast tumors in young African American women were more likely to be fast-growing and more aggressive than those found in white women.

“One of the important conclusions from this study is that even when you correct for stage — that is, look at tumors of the same stage from white women and African American women — tumors from the African-American women tend to have features characteristic of more aggressive and rapidly growing cancers,” said Dr. Peggy Porter, lead author of the study. “If their tumors tend to grow more quickly, this may help to explain why their cancers are being diagnosed at later stages, which can lead to poorer outcomes.”

Other studies have indicated that there are other possible reasons that African American women suffer high death rates from breast cancer: unemployment or underemployment, lack of health insurance, and lack of proper health education have all been cited as possible socioeconomic contributing factors.

Overall, over 16 million women nationwide lack health insurance coverage and African American women are twice as likely to be uninsured as white women; over 30 percent of African American women live in poverty, and African American women are less likely to get mammograms.

Regardless of the socioeconomic factors that may contribute to the high death rate for African American women, medical professionals agree that early detection is paramount to surviving breast cancer and they’ve issued a number of recommendations to help African American women detect the disease in its earliest stages and improve their chances of survival.

Medical professionals recommend that African American women should:

Practice monthly breast self-examinations (BSE) starting at age 20.

Have a clinical breast examination, done by their physician, at least once a year.

Have at least one mammogram completed, between the ages of 30 and 35.

Have a mammogram completed every one to two years until age of 50.

After 50, African American women should have an annual mammogram.

Breast cancer is a common disease among women of all races in America. This year, more than 200,000 women will develop the disease and 40,000 of them will die from it. Though African American women have less incidence of developing the disease, once diagnosed, their chances of survival are less than their white sisters.

To increase their chances of surviving breast cancer, African American women need understand the risk that breast cancer poses to them and get screened for the disease earlier and more often.

For more information about breast cancer and your risk, please contact your physician or visit:

National Breast Cancer Foundation: www.nationalbreastcancer.org.

 

Drahcir Semaj is a freelance writer who writes about issues impacting the African American Community. He can be contacted at his email address: drachir@drahcirsemaj.com.

 

By Bret Searles

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” James Baldwin

At present, African Americans stand at the crossroads of great hopes for wealth and freedom exceptional for the great-and great, great-grandchildren of former slaves and great despair caused by family disintegration, generational poverty, educational disparities and the digital divide. The threat is that we will form a permanent underclass is this new society as the demand for skilled and highly educated workers and new business owners reaches a peak.

You might not like me too much for the data I present in this chapter that reveals the depths of our situation. Bill Cosby has been speaking out about these things and has taken some heat for his coarse rhetoric. We can’t change our situation until we know what we are changing. I believe that once you see the data, you will be compelled to make some changes. If that is the case, I am confident that you will finish the rest of this solutions-oriented guide.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, over 70% of black children are born out of wedlock. Many times, the father is absolutely out of the picture. Single moms have the toughest job there is in this country. No work demands as much immediate attention and delayed gratification. You cannot pay someone enough to do this job yet the single black mom is the poorest demographic in our society. An unimaginable 39% of black female heads of household and 33% of black children are living below the poverty line compared to 18.6% of white female heads of household and 9.6% of white children. The true shame is that all odds are stacked against these families compounding every challenge normally faced with raising children into healthy, confident and independent adults. They face long odds when it comes to living in poverty, being victimized by violence, lacking quality education, low self-esteem and poor role models.

Having a loving father around is a spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially stabilizing force needed by every child. The numbers bear this out to be true. Only 7.1% of black married couple families live below the poverty line and only 3.3% of white married couple families live below the poverty line. God created the family to consist of both a father and mother and all other arrangements are sub-optimal for children. Be that as it may, everyone must also make the best of their situation as it may be right now.

The reality is that 300 years of slavery has devastated the African American family unit. There are many African American families that are loving and meeting the needs of their children that we don’t here about that share in the values and beliefs that stable families are good for our children. The challenge is that we were deliberately denied the benefits of family for too long. Saving the African American family needs to be the number one priority of every organization that says its purpose is to help black people. A father is the first competitive edge any young person can have in this world. A young person of any race that is raised in a fatherless home has several strikes against him or her already.

Building and strengthening African American family is the first preliminary step we need to take to get started on the track to building wealth as a people in this society.

The seven critical 21st century skills outlined in the book, The 7 Simple Secrets to Wealth Building: An African American’s Guide to Wealth Building in the 21st Century and Beyond, will work for anyone however, accomplishing anything will always be more difficult for those with so many odds against them that they must overcome and being fatherless is a long odd, indeed. This data presented here is not designed to discourage anyone. Hopefully, it will encourage each of you to more carefully consider the needs of Black children and to find ways to provide them with what they need to flourish in this new economy starting with a responsible, loving father figure.

Bret Searles is a freelance writer on Black personal finance and business issues, author of ebook “The 7 Simple Secrets to Building Wealth: An African American Guide” and publisher of the ezine Black Wealth Now.

Aphrodisiacs: Fact or Fiction?

We all have heard the rumors about certain foods increasing your libido and stimulating your desire for sex.  When it comes to such edible aphrodisiacs the evidence is somewhat inconclusive. Some people swear by certain foods and their ability to turn up the heat  while others say they just haven’t experienced any miraculous effects. We think almost all aphrodisiacs very likely have general libido increasing qualities that affect each person differently–whether physiologically or psychologically. We’re all built a little bit different, so you have to find the one that works best for you.

Recently 2 University of Guelph researchers,  Massimo F. Marcone and master’s student John Melnyk examined hundreds of studies on commonly used consumable aphrodisiacs to investigate claims of sexual enhancement, either psychological and physiological–results of their study appeared in the journal Food Research International. Here’s what they found:

Ginseng, saffron and yohimbine, a natural chemical from yohimbe trees in West Africa, improved human sexual function.

Wine and chocolate, improved sexual function, but their amorous effects are likely psychological.

Spanish fly and Bufo toad–while purported to be sexually enhancing, they produced the opposite result and can even be toxic.

People report increased sexual desire after eating muira puama, a flowering plant found in Brazil; maca root, a mustard plant in the Andes; and chocolate. Although despite its purported aphrodisiac effect, chocolate was not linked to sexual arousal or satisfaction, the study said. ”It may be that some people feel an effect from certain ingredients in chocolate, mainly phenylethylamine, which can affect serotonin and endorphin levels in the brain,” Marcone said.

Alcohol was found to increase sexual arousal but to impede sexual performance.

Nutmeg, cloves, garlic, ginger, and ambergris (formed in the intestinal tract of the sperm whale) are among substances linked to increased sexual behaviour in animals.

While their findings support the use of foods and plants for sexual enhancement, the authors urge caution. “Currently, there is not enough evidence to support the widespread use of these substances as effective aphrodisiacs,” Marcone said. “More clinical studies are needed to better understand the effects on humans.”

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Views expressed here do not necessarily reflect those of B Intentional, LLC or its staff.

From One Man To Another: Chris Brown Let’s Talk

Whatup Chris,

I watched your recent video where you openly shared being stressed out and torn between two women.  You said you love both and you don’t want to hurt either.  I respect that…..the fact that you even care is a good thing.  You expressed that your mom didn’t raise a playa…that’s not who you are or what you’re doing.  Again…you’re torn between two and it’s emotionally tearing apart you.  You concluded your video by saying”a nigga be stressin….niggas be stressin”.

Let me begin by saying I hear your frustration, trust and believe it’s not uncommon.   I’ve spoken with a number of dudes who’ve placed themselves in a similar predicament and are stressed about deciding between

Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at Establish Partnership With Monarch Magazine As Relationship Experts

By Team BLAM

We are so happy to announce that we’ve recently partnered with the ultra fabulous and luxurious Monarch Magazine as Relationship & Lifestlye experts and we are  some kinda excited! Let us be super real…we are really excited! Ya’ll know that we don’t think anything happens by accident and we are sure that our coming together with Monarch is going to be powerful and oh so purposeful.

When we first began having conversations with the folks at the magazine we were amazed at how much our brands strive for the very same things. Monarch is very proud of the fact that they “attract readers who have not placed limitations on who they are or what they can be”. C’mon ya’ll! Now, ya’ll know that sentence alone exudes the very essence of who we are and what we stand for here at B Intentional. Our company exsists to help people increase their self-awareness, overcome obstacles, and reach their most ridiculous goals. So, you can see why we are so excited.

Monarch has built their exclusive brand by securing features with top African American achievers in a variety of industries. Everyone from Boris Kodjoe, Taraji P. Henson, Tasha White-Smith, Nia Long, Dwayne Wade & so many others have graced the covers of their magazine. We will be providing relationship commentary, articles and videos for the in-print & online publication.

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