“Life Is Short. Have An Affair.”
Never thought I’d see the day where a company’s tagline would be: “Life is short. Have an affair.” Well, the day has come. There is actually a website that caterers to wannabe adulterers. Really? Really. Don’t take our word for it. Check out an interview with the website’s founder, Noel Biderman. Huffington Post’s Jill Brooke goes behind the scenes with the controversial website, AshleyMadison.com’s, CEO.
Excerpted From Huffington Post
Do affairs lead to divorce? Noel Biderman, the CEO of AshleyMadison.com, the web’s premier site for wannabe adulterers, doesn’t think so. With 8.5 million users and paying customers in over 10 countries including the U.S., Canada, Australia, England, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, Ireland, New Zealand and Sweden, Biderman (a former sports agent turned Internet mogul), believes that if people were more flexible in allowing sexual encounters outside of marriage, there would be fewer divorces. “I didn’t invent infidelity,” says BIderman. “Or the desire for it.”
What he did invent–after learning that between 10 to 30 percent of people on traditional dating sites were married–is a company that is creating both controversy and cash, with $60 million in profits expected this year. Is he an agent of change, an agent provocateur, or both?
JB: Do you see why some are troubled that you are making money from infidelity? It appears as though you are encouraging it.
NB: Do you blame the divorce attorney for the divorce? By not having honest conversations about sex in relationships, you get divorces and then a large self-help business where they need to find a villain to sell their services and convince someone at $150 an hour how bad it is that someone cheated. AshleyMadison lets people have affairs without interrupting lives.
JB: You don’t know that. Haven’t some people hooked up and left their spouses?
NB: Yes, there was an example cited in a book where the couple met and then left their spouses. But then there are the other examples. I was on a radio show the other day and the wife said he could come to our site because with the kids and her work she was tired and only wanted sex once a week. We offered a solution. There are also cases where people are with spouses who are sick with cancer or other problems and cant’ have sex. Also with us, it’s not an office affair, which has more risk because your spouse or boss could find out about it.
JB: Do you think Americans are too provincial about how they handle monogamy in marriages?
NB: People who want to have an affair are made out to be sociopaths with character flaws. If you cheated, you must be bad, and therefore can’t run a country, state or corporation. Why is that the litmus test? There’s this marital industrial complex that someone who strays is considered evil and wrong and it’s all their fault. That’s ridiculous. Look at Eliot Spitzer. He’s no longer Governor of New York. He was a great Governor and now is on CNN. His wife forgave him. Why can’t everyone else?
JB: I think the issue there was also hypocrisy. He fought against prostitution, and considering his actions should have perhaps lobbied for it. What do you think of prostitution? You now have Harry Reid wanting to close brothels.
NB: You can’t suppress human sexuality. It’s once again this appalling cultural legacy of people judging someone’s sexual desires and the time has come for people to get their heads out of the sand. There’s a reason movies like Hall Pass or the marketing campaign of Las Vegas where “What Happens In Las Vegas Stays in Las Vegas” with bachelor parties and weekends away are popular. It’s out there in the culture that people want this and I would argue it’s been good for Las Vegas. Prohibition never works. I was a sports agent and saw how the wives of athletes had this 50 mile rule. As long as it’s not at home, they didn’t ask questions. When the guys came home off-season they were with their wives and families and no questions asked.
JB: Has anyone ever cheated on you? Have you ever felt that sense of betrayal?
NB: No, I haven’t.
JB: You are happily married with two children. Do you plan on having an affair?
NB: I’ve been married for eight years. But I would try that first before getting a divorce. Marriage is a marathon and has a great value. When I’m 80, I hope to be sitting with my spouse with my grandchildren and proud to have lived a life together. Great societies are built on tolerance. Ultimately, I’m hoping to let others see different perspectives.
So BLAM Family, weigh in. Is this just the craziest thing you have ever heard of or do you there’s value to this site and what it’s CEO is trying to provide?
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Life is short,yes,that sooo true,have an affair,if you must…but,have it with yourself,god,and other..Introduce yourself back,to who you're…to love self,and show god,that you love him unconditionly as well,and for others,show respect,as y'all want them to show you…Having an affair,in a relationship.or marriage,y'all are gambling with your soul…cause getting in a relationship,or jumping the broom…be careful,cause you don't know how the opposite sex feel
about you.Love is know joke…when it real…I'M JUST SAYING…
Call me narrowminded then…..I heard of this site a couple of years ago and i am still not convinced that is healthy for anyone. People who find nothing wrong with this probably have not experienced the destructive nature of infidelity. If all you want is a piece of tail on the side, you are not ready for marriage nor do you understand the spiritual nature of marriage and impact that it has on children and the generations to come.
Too bad neither Kobe or Michael honored the dedication and discipline to be narrow-minded about the pursuit of excellence in their marriages. No judgement passed, but I’m saying.
These websites that condone adultery and promiscuity could be compared to other underground sites that promote polygamy and other open marriages and relationships. It is a matter of choice and lifestyle. Not for everyone; but nonetheless these types of arrangements do exist.
The best of the best may be an elite group in sports, marriage, academia, etc….but understand that the best of the best 100 years ago….50 years ago….maybe even 10 years ago…is not the same as today……the world is expanding and evolving….and I think that our vision of human sexuality needs to expand with it.
respectfully that may be where you are, but it doesn't work for me. The same thing that ties Bill Russell, Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant together is the dedication and discipline to be narrowminded about the pursuit of excellence. Because the League expanded and may be even watered down a bit, the pursuit of excellence is today, what it was yesterday and what it will be tomorrow-period. Because the world is expanding does not mean to me that I must change or adapt the principles of excellence. This seems like a convenience excuse to get some extra ass. But call me narrowminded. I'm am what I am
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this is real talk people….we live in a capitalist society….therefore people will always be looking for a creative way to make a buck…so what that he's married…it was a good business idea. secondly…it's hard to be in a lasting relationship these days…..some women look the other way because they don't want to be out here living on their own looking for another man.
Real Talk Ms. Sassy, it's only hard for people to be in lasting relationships who do not possess the skill set or discipline to be in a lasting relationship. That's real talk.
The kids who does not excel in school say, "school is stupid." The kid who is unable to pick up the game played says, "I don't want to play any more." The sister who keeps picking the same deadbeat dude says, "there are no good men," and the person who hasn't succeeded in a lasting relationships, "falls back on relationships are hard."
My reality is I know a rack of people living and longing in long relationships because they are willing to put in what is required to make it long lasting.
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I think there is definitely value to what his site has to offer. I agree that our culture is to narrowminded when it comes to sexuality and to have a safe outlet to explore "restricted" indulgences is a good thing.
I was appalled when I heard about the website; it was a few years ago and he was on TV doing an interview. Websites such as this lends to the dissolution of marriages and condones infidelity. I'm confused how any married person would feel justified in creating a website such as this. As he stated, he's never had to deal with the consequences of infidelity; the pain and disappointment. While he stated that he would cheat before getting a divorce, I wonder if he would feel the same if he found out his wife was the one utilizing the website…. hmmm inquiring minds want to know!