Lil Wayne……Have You Lost Your Mind?

VIDEO: Do you remember the song back in the day….”Guard Your Grill, Knuckle Up”?….Yeah, in today’s world you gotta…”Guard Your Mind And Armor Up”! We are so serious…there are so many songs on the radio that promote lifestyles that have dire consequences for our community. The song “I’m Single” by Lil Wayne is an example. Can you imagine what the world look like if every married person that got into an argument said “I’m Single Tonight”? Well, we ain’t too far from it  because we are embracing and passively accepting messages like the one promoted in this song. As a community we need more positive images of black marriage. Don’t fall victim to the mentality of this song…Please stand up and represent.

“I’m Single”/Lil Wayne Lyrics

WARNING: This song contains very explicit lyrics so get your mind right. This is the type of hype (yeah, that’s what it is…straight up hype) that we guard our subconscious minds from as much as we can. We air this Ridiculous Foolishness not to glorify but rather to illuminate and bring to the forefront of our awareness the fact that destructive messages about how to manage conflict in a marriage are being promoted all the time.  The Ma’at’s say “Boooo!”

20 replies
  1. Dorcas
    Dorcas says:

    Alright you two I am confused,because I just watched one of your video where you discussed threesome where you said" to each their own" and now you are furious with Lil Wayne's lyrics……well,why can't the lyrics be..his things too. Yes I am married and faithfully so,I don't believe in cheating nor am I a fan of Lil Wayne's…but between these two videos y'all are sending conflicting messages my way. Thanks

    • Ayize Ma'at
      Ayize Ma'at says:

      Good question. We have respect for folks that decide what's best for their relationship even if "what's best" appears abnormal to everybody else. It's not to say we would do it or even agree with it….it's simply saying we respect you as a couple and your right to self determination as a couple. What we don't respect and are avid opponents of is deception and dishonesty in your relationship. The energy, tone, and lyrics of the "I'm Single" trac reek of dishonesty and deception. Sure we all have relationship issues ….but we feel like it's a huge problem when approach to conflict management is to say "I'm Single" because you're interested in a "side piece". That ain't right. lol …..especially when you do it on such a national/international platform like he has.
      My recent post How To Create A Strong Step Family

  2. Ronesshia
    Ronesshia says:

    I cannot say enough about how much I loved this post! It made my day watching it.

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you to the Ma'ats for keeping it 100% real! Healthy marriages are so important to the future of the Black community.

    For real y'all we have to STOP PLAYIN', and START PUSHIN'!

  3. Terrence Ferguson
    Terrence Ferguson says:

    I think this was a great post because it is creating a good dialogue. It's o.k. to disagree, and I certainly disagree with several posts about this topic. It is true that music can not make us do anything, but feeding stuff to our spirits is real. Just like the food we eat, garbage in – garbage out. If these types of messages are all we're hearing over a period of time we may start to justify cheating on our significant others. If all you hear all of the time is that you're stupid or ugly one day you may believe it. On the flip side if you hear that you're handsome/beautiful and highly intelligent all of the time one day you might believe it. This is my first time hearing this song, and I will never entertain the thought that I'm single for a night. My wife and I made a covenant before our family, friends and most importantly God, and I don't take that lightly. I'm not single, but Married until one of us die's. God bless fam.

  4. dwayne
    dwayne says:

    All genre of music has positive and negative. As an adult YOU are the person making conscience decisions on what your actions will be. Any ADULT blaming music for their actions just using it as an excuse. A bullshit excuse for what that adult wanted to do anyway.

  5. Ayize Ma'at
    Ayize Ma'at says:

    Our video is challenging those who think the mantra "I'm single" is justification for infidelity. We recognize that the "I'm Single" approach is a very real response from folks in our community who don't have/or fail to utilize appropriate tools to negotiate relationship difficulty. While it might be real ……IT DON'T MAKE IT RIGHT. So in this video we are rejecting this mentality and trying to minimize/prevent the rapid spread of this infectious ("I'm Single") idea.
    My recent post Lil Wayne……Have You Lost Your Mind

  6. Joe
    Joe says:

    What is the idea of this video? Even after I read all comments and replies to those comments, I am lost. . .

    • Kandy
      Kandy says:

      What's the point of the Lil' Wayne video?…I mean really. I appreciate when people confront foolishness rather than silently accept it. If there is a soapbox for nonsensical musings then there should also be a megaphone for people who take issue with the madness. I'm glad the Ma'at's took time to challenge people who are in committed relationships to not fall victim to this mentality.

  7. Kandy
    Kandy says:

    Preach Yall!! The congregation of 40 and under needs to hear this.

  8. Tralene
    Tralene says:

    Phenomenal once again Ma'at's. I had to comment on this one. When I first heard this song I was insulted. To all the married, engaged, and committed folks who got "Tonight I'm Single" as your ringtone, or have made this your weekend anthem I have a question……What are you every other night?….Answer……A Damn LIE!!!!!

    • mrztmb
      mrztmb says:

      Ok for real. I am so upset that he would even write a song like this. Further let me know why he is single… But the enemy uses his gift to kill, steal and destroy. He is being faithful to his mission. The question are we? We need to be just as diligent in what we believe. And this isnt it…

  9. Mekayden
    Mekayden says:

    So how is listening to this song any different from one's husband/wife going to the strip club? According to the good book: It is a shame and wrong to uncover your nakedness to others. The priests were warned to wear undergarments so that their nakedness would not be discovered when they went up the steps to the altar in their robes. Their undergarments (linen breeches) were to cover from their loins (waist) to their thighs (Exodus 28:42). When the children of Israel made and worshipped the golden calf, Aaron "made them naked unto their shame" (Exodus 32:25). Isaiah 47:3 speaks of the shame of having your nakedness uncovered.
    It is a sin to uncover the nakedness of another. This is seen as leading to other sins (see Leviticus 18:6-18).
    It is wrong to look on the nakedness of others. Ham's son was cursed because Ham saw the nakedness of his father and went and talked about it (Genesis 9:22-23). Habakkuk 2:15 speaks of the wickedness of those who get someone drunk in order to "look on their nakedness." Now with all that being said, how is one any more right than the other. With Wayne's song you are justing getting an idea but with the stripclub you are getting an idea and the visual to go along with it. 🙂

    • Chris
      Chris says:

      The difference:
      1. Little Wayne's song is talking about infidelity… cheating on your spouse. Going to the strip club is not infidelity especially if you and your spouse are o.k. with it.

      2. There are many "good books" and spiritual traditions that view looking upon the naked body as sacred AND beautiful and NOT as a sin as you say the bible does.

      • Baabay
        Baabay says:

        Well, I understand others hold different values. Im pretty sure there are many 'good books' and beliefs that could contradict anything the bible says. Will I follow those beliefs? I'm afraid not. Nice try Chris. There is always something to call good evil and evil good. I respect your feedback.

  10. rocco
    rocco says:

    Be careful people….You’re right..we do have to protect our minds. I’ve actually seen guys with wedding rings in the club getting their groove on to this song.

    • Guest
      Guest says:

      I agree…cause there are a lot of women who doesn't care either…..

  11. Guest
    Guest says:

    Are you also going to protest TLC's "Creep" and Rhianna's "Unfaithful"? R &B has plenty of songs that deal with/promote infidelity. In my opinion, music can't make you do anything. Its up the person to control him/herself.

    • Aiyana
      Aiyana says:

      "In my opinion, music can't make you do anything. Its up the person to control him/herself." This is the age old debate….Does music impact our psyche and our subconscious mind? The fact is—it does. That's not an opinion. That's a fact. It's been studied for years. Check out this brief article by Dr. John Schinnerer: "How Do Song Lyrics Influence Behavior?" to read about some of these studies.

      Now, all of that said I absolutely agree with you that ultimately it is up to the individual to control his or herself. Absolutely–it comes down to the choices we make as individuals. And, that's exactly the point we're attempting to make here–we all need to check our CHOICES and CHOOSE to lift up and reinforce productive and positive words, images, and messages in our own lives and in the lives of each other particularly as it relates to relationships with people we are supposed to love and respect.

      To your question: "Are you also going to protest TLC's "Creep" and Rhianna's "Unfaithful"? R &B has plenty of songs that deal with/promote infidelity"
      That's not the point. The overarching message we're trying to get across is that as a community we need more positive images of black marriage. Period. Lil Wayne's song is the example here, however, you're right there are ALOT of songs we could have chosen.
      But thank goodness our mission is not to "protest songs". Our mission is to change people's minds on marriage, encourage us all to elevate our consciousness in our words and in our actions, and Stop Playing & Start Pushing ourselves to the next level in our lives and in our relationships.
      My recent post Lil Wayne……Have You Lost Your Mind

    • mrztmb
      mrztmb says:

      Truth be told "guest" we will be here all day outlining songs that promote infidelity but making an example out of one would give an excellent model in terms of approaching music in the future on all aspects of life. Music can not make you do anything but the same way that you instantly feel sexy or in the mood for love when you listen to one song and outraged, figety and upset just as quick on another…. even if you do not cheat physically the Word (Bible) states that whatever a man thinks so is he. So if you thought in your mind how you want to cheat on your wife because of how she nags and have pictorial images of this behavior you have cheated. That's it and that's all.

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