The Mess Of Modern Day Microwave Marriages

By Team BLAM

By now you’ve probably heard that Kim Kardashian filed divorce papers on Monday. The reason? Irreconcilable differences. She told The Scoop: “After careful consideration, I have decided to end my marriage,” . “I hope everyone understands this was not an easy decision. I had hoped this marriage was forever but sometimes things don’t work out as planned. We remain friends and wish each other the best.”

Apparently her husband Kris Humphries isn’t on the same page. “I love my wife and am devastated to learn she filed for divorce,” he said in a statement to E! News. “I’m committed to this marriage and everything this covenant represents. I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make it work.”

This 72 day marriage had a prenuptial agreement so all they have to do now is take what’s theirs and move on. Who knew? Their wedding (not marriage) was one of the biggest and most lavish celeb events of the year.

*For example,  according to US Magazine, the bride, 30, wore three ivory Vera Wang gowns throughout the night, and strictly requested her guests wear either black or white. Kim’s sisters — Kourtney, Khloe, Kendall and Kylie Jenner, and the groom’s sister Kaela — all wore ivory Vera Wang gowns as well.

*The altar where Kim and Kris, 26, exchanged their vows was a huge cross made of Swarovski crystals. “It was a bit much,” a source said. “But Kris’ family are Christians and very religious, so maybe that was a way of incorporating in religion and Kardashian style.”

*The couple’s black and white cake — designed by Hansen Cakes in LA, and estimated to cost a whopping $15,000 to $20,000 — was a six foot tall, black and white masterpiece.

I’m not even hating on the the bling on steroids represented all throughout the wedding. Hey, if you got it like that–do you. But, what the H E double hockey sticks is up with a 72 day marriage??? Of course, rumors are already out and about.

Reports are saying that tension in the marriage spread across entertainment media for the past week, with reports of 26-year-old New Jersey Nets player Humphries’ reluctance to play his role in the Kardashian brand and differences over where the newlyweds should make their home. Really?

I even heard on the radio (actually while writing this) that the wedding was a big scam and that each of them made a cool 7 million from this whole….”performance”, I guess?

Look I don’t know, you don’t know–only the two of them really know what the deal is but I want to speak for a moment on what I do know. Here’s what I DO know:

Marriage is a COVENANT not to be trifled with.

A covenant marriage is intended by God to be a lifelong relationship representing unconditional love, reconciliation, and growth.

A covenant is an eternal commitment with God. People can negotiate out of contracts, but not out of a covenant. And, don’t hit me with “Well, what if someone’s being abused?!” That’s not what I’m talking about, ok?

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong covenant relationship. When a couple shares their wedding vows, they are (supposed to be) vowing to God, each other, their families, and their community to remain steadfast in unconditional love, commitment, and reconciliation while purposefully growing in their relationship.

That word steadfast is significant. Look it up. Here’s what it means….

Steadfast: Firmly loyal or constant. Fixed in intensity or direction. Steady.Unwavering or determined in purpose.

As much as we  here at BLAM advocate that only you and your spouse can, at the end of the day, define your marriage and what works for you — Marriage is not just whatever we say it is. It’s not a game. It’s not a show. It’s not a performance. It’s not to be disrespected or played with.

I think most of us know better  but lawd have mercy whether your name is Kim Kardashian & Kris Humphries or Jane & John Doe WE GOT TO DO BETTER!

Stop Playing. Start Pushing.

7 replies
  1. Heavenly princes
    Heavenly princes says:

    This is ridiculous i look forward for something better ..this was like top all wedding in years..and now look…they have wedding like shaking hands God sacred plan for 2 individual to join as one and make it into to a worldly mess… how can people say they love you ad hurt you like this… For better of for worse not for not for money of for fame… God never sleep….

  2. KeeKee
    KeeKee says:

    I will not address Kris who is 26 years old, but I will address Kim. She is selfish. She is 30 + years old and is too old to be acting like a child. Kim is so blinded by being seen, jumping in and out of bed with men, and trying to get rich anyway she can. I feel like she was so hooked on being in love ie lust that she didn't think maturely…..she really thinks maturely. She really should be ashamed of herself. She ruined this young man reputation.

    Her whole family should be ashamed of themselves, especially her mother Kris. These women do not know their place in a marriage. They want to be in control, and call all the shots…Kris Humphries should have ran when Kim didn't take his last name. What man would allow his wife not to take his last name? Foolishness…

  3. Vanessa
    Vanessa says:

    Is a shame l bet her mum is the one pushing her in all this , Kim if you read this try and make it work, there is no such thing as Mr Perfect. Marriage is not like going out to buy a car and say after testing it i dont want it anymore .you are the only one that can make it work (both). stay away from outside influence and keep whats goes on private.

    Give him a chance , you are married now so its not always about u or your family, its about husband and wife ,

  4. Patricia Knight
    Patricia Knight says:

    A 72 day escapade is a long date, not a marriage. It's apparent to me that they had no serious intent to begin with. Let's not look at this as some great tragedy. Their purpose was to make money, and they did. Case closed.

  5. YUMMommy
    YUMMommy says:

    I agree completely. When you have people out their who are taking their marriage seriously and fighting for it,I think it is very disrespectful when it appears that others are abusing this sacred commitment for money and to stay relevant in the media. I understand that we are on the outside looking in and don't really know what went on behind closed doors but let's face it, you can spot BS when you see it.

    And there is certainly something fishy going on here. You love this guy so much that you don't even try to go to therapy or inform him that you're going to divorce him? I'm just buying it. And I'm glad that people who take their marriage and marriage in general serious are speaking out and saying "Hey, look don't make a mockery of this covenant."
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