Robin Thicke Sounds Off. Says The Idea That Black Women Are Better Off Dating White Men “Is Ridiculous”.

By Team BLAM

Robin Thicke recently sat down with and shared some thoughts on interracial dating, his relationship with his wife Paula, and misguided rumors about whose the best type of man for black women.  When asked if black women are better off dating white men his response was:

I think that’s ridiculous. There are so many good Black men out there that are hardworking, decent, and handsome, you know? To start that rumor is as bad as starting any other negative rumor. There are great Black men out there. There are only a few good White men — trust me. (Laughs) Good luck finding a good White man who understands your journey. I only have three White friends. I’ve got 20 Black male friends, who are all good men who take good care of their wives, and good care of their children. I know amazing Black men. Maybe the women have to take better care of their men. Maybe you’re being too stubborn. Maybe you’re not saying you’re sorry. You have to take good care of him, too. You have to give love to get love.

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Anthony Hamilton Speaks Up. Says “There Is A Huge Misconception About Black Love Not Being Able To Last”

Love is in the air with the holiday season in full effect. Soul singer Anthony Hamilton just released his latest studio album, ‘Back To Love,’ in time for the romantic season as couples cozy up together in front of the fireplace. Known for many of his love ballads, Anthony is no stranger to speaking on the topic. In a recent interview with Rolling Out magazine, the “Woo” singer touched on the subject of black love.

Though this clearly has been refuted with couples such as Will and Jada Smith, Anthony believes here is a huge misconception about black love not being able to last.

“The biggest misconception about black love is that we don’t get along or we don’t evolve as a couple,” he said. “But we have couples that are 60 or 65-year-old, married couples. You have to find your strength, and your love within the Lord and you can have that too.”

However, problems with this misunderstanding can stem from the portrayal of relationships not working due to black women not grasping what a black man necessarily wants in a relationship. Nowadays, many women are into the ideal of being “independent,” which some men, such as R&B star Tyrese, find to be somewhat of a turn-off.

“I wish they would understand that we love the subtle, soft-spoken woman a lot more than the aggressive attitude,” Anthony revealed. “Because once you adopt that attitude you tend to use it and you use it not for good anymore, it becomes an unbalance. We love the soft side of a sister. We love the soft side of a woman, the submissive side.

“A man has to make you comfortable enough to show that side so you don’t have to be so defensive; so it’s a two way street,” he added.

As for the two-way street, Anthony also voices out his opinion on black men needing to step up to the plate and being honest about their true intentions, rather than leading a woman on.

“They can step up to the plate by making bigger commitments, being ready, knowing what they want first of all, because in a real relationship you’re trying to go to a place and make this a real commitment, and then make the step. But if it’s not what you want, be honest,” he explained.

On how to tell if a man wants a real long-term commitment, Anthony continued: “He’ll have a certain amount of patience and admiration for the person he’s spending time with. He won’t have that ‘whatever’ attitude, and he’ll talk a certain way, he’ll talk like, ‘my wife’ in his conversations and attitude. He’ll open doors and it won’t just last for two weeks. It will be an ongoing thing.”

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Mary J. Blige Talks Pain, Love, Working With Her Husband, & Inspiration Behind Her New Album

By Team BLAM

Mary J. Blige visited the “Chelsea Lately Show” last week and talked about the inspiration behind her new album “My Life II”. One of the reasons Mary J. Blige is as popular as she is in our opinion is because she is as honest and transparent as she is. Whe we are able to be honest about ourselves–where we’ve been and what we’ve been through–it actually liberates and free us to go to the next level in our lives.

In 2000, Blige met record industry executive Martin Kendu Isaacs, who later became her manager. The two were married on December 7, 2003, in a small private ceremony at Blige’s home attended by 50 guests. Check out her interview above and let us know what you think.

VIDEO: Beyonce Shares Her Excitement About Becoming A Mommy With 20/20’s Katie Couric

By Team BLAM

Beyonce was interviewed on Friday by 20/20’s Katie Couric and she was full of anticipation as her due date draws nearer.

“Physically I was starting to show, so it was only a matter of days before someone zoomed in. So I just wanted it to be from me, and I wanted it to be something that was a celebration of something so beautiful,” Beyonce said of the decision to stop mid-performance at the VMAs to rub her belly, in a sit-down interview with Couric.

Her reaction following the reveal was of relief. “Honestly, I just felt free. I really did, because I’d been holding the most exciting thing in for so long, and I just felt like, ‘Wow, now I can enjoy and now I can just experience this the way that every woman should,’ ” she said. “I felt like, ‘Oh, I can breathe and be happy. It was a beautiful feeling. … I went straight off the stage and cried. I hugged my mom, I hugged Jay and just cried. It was a beautiful day.”

Beyonce revealed that she hasn’t been having any off-the-wall pregnancy cravings, even though there were rumors that she liked ketchup on everything and ice-cream with hot sauce.

“I was on a plane and the flight attendant came and was like, ‘I have your hot sauce and pickles and bananas,’ ” she recalled. “And I’m like, ‘That is absolutely disgusting, what are you doing?’ He’s like, ‘I read it on the Internet.’ ”

It seems that this superstar is truly in pregnancy and is gearing up for Mommy-hood. She deserves it!

Monica Shares How She’d Decided To Stay Single UNTIL She Met Hubby Shannon Brown.

By Team BLAM

Monica stopped by the Wendy Williams Show and talked about how she and hubby, Shannon Brown, met, how they’re opposites, and the fact that she had basically resigned herself to being single until she met Shannon. When asked about the possibilities of a baby she said “we practice regularly”. They make a very attractive couple . We wish them all the best! Listen in.

Congrats To New Parents To Be….Chris & Adrienne Bosh!!!

We want to send a big CONGRATULATIONS out to Chris Bosh and his wife Adrienne. Seems they’ve been very busy with all that free time from the NBA lockout! The Miami Heat player and his wife are expecting their first child, reports Page Six. The couple, who were married in Miami this past July, are “over the moon” about welcoming their “Baby Bosh.”

Adrienne was even spotted shopping at posh baby boutique Bellini with fellow basketball wife Larsa Pippen (married to Scottie Pippen).

Congratulations to the parents to be!

VIDEO: Look At Her Now! Tasha Smith Opens Up About Her Marriage & Troubled Past

Actress Tasha Smith stopped by the “Wendy Williams Show” and opened up about her marriage to husband Keith Douglas (they exchanged vows in the living room of their Los Angeles home last year) and her past job as a stripper in New Jersey.

I have to say Tasha Smith is a bona fide inspiration as far as I’m concerned. She has no problem talking about her mistakes, how much she loves her husband, and how her relationship with God  saved her life. She represents so well! Listen in.

VIDEO: Pat and Gina Neely Talk About Their New Book, “The Neelys’ Celebration Cookbook”.

By Team BLAM

Food Network’s Pat and Gina Neely stopped by “Good Day Atlanta” to demonstrate how to cook a traditional turkey and talk about their new cookbook titled, “The Neelys’ Celebration Cookbook.” We love the Neely’s here at BLAM. They are a couple who by their mere existence demonstrate the power of combining your purpose, passion & love together. They are making their mark doing what they do best and by being of service to the world. That’s what life is all about. Get some fab new down home cooking skills skills and support this duo by purchasing your copy HERE.

Thanksgiving with the Neelys:

Thanksgiving with the Neelys: