Hey Ayize & Aiyana? What’s Going On With Jay, Beyonce, And Solange?

There’s a whole lot of speculating going on about what happened between Jay Z and Solange in that viral elevator video.  As a result of the footage folks are taking a closer look at the marriage between Jay Z and Beyonce and questioning it’s projected “perfection”.  Check out this video and learn what you really need to know about Jay, Beyonce…..and Solange.  You may or may not care about the Carter’s…we’d love for you to let us know what you think.

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Don’t Let Reality T.V. Destroy Your Relationship

Is reality T.V destroying your relationship?  Is your man or woman spending more time with the Real House Wives of …..?  Are they soooo preoccupied with Nene, Tamar, Stevie J, and so on and so on that they’ve stopped focusing on you?  Have they internalized some of the craziness that they’re seeing to such a degree that it’s starting to show up in your relationship?  If so it’s time to do something different.  Whatever you focus on….GROWS.  Stop focussing on the negativity that you see in everybody else’s relationship.   It’s not helping you….it’s hurting you.

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Meagan Good And Devon Franklin Share Some Marriage Secrets

Megan and DeVon discuss newlywed bliss and what kind of marriage they want to have.  They give the scoop on their plans for the next couple of years…babies and all : )  Check out the video and let us know what you think.  To many their devotion to each other is inspiring.

Dwayne Wade & Gabrielle Union’s Holiday Photoshoot–Behind The Scenes Video!

Shortly after actress Gabrielle Union and Miami Heat player Dwayne Wade announced their engagement on December 21, the soon-to-be-married couple gifted us another treat via social media — an adorable behind-the-scenes look at their family holiday card!   “Happy holidays from my family to yours. Check out our full family holiday photo shoot,” Gabrielle tweeted along with a link to the YouTube video on Dwayne’s page.   Set to “What Christmas Means to Me” by Cee Lo Green, the video shows Gabrielle and Dwayne goofing around with Dwayne’s two sons and nephew.

Check it out and let us know what you think.  There are so many folks who absolutely LOVE this couple and then there are those who are oh so not impressed with them……because of the rumors of how they got together. How do you feel about these two?




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Does Meagan Good Dress Too Provocatively To Be A Preacher’s Wife?

Meagan Good has been receiving some criticism from folks about the way she dresses.  It’s not that tight clothes and short skirts are abnormal in today’s world….but it’s quite different/abnormal/going against the grain to see a minister’s wife dressing in a way that many would consider “too sexy” or provocatively.  Do you think that she should have the freedom to wear whatever she chooses (as long as it’s considered respectable by her husband)?  Or do you think that she should wear clothing that traditionally considered appropriate for a minister’s wife?  In a recent interview with Wendy Williams, Meagan Good addresses her critics and shares her thoughts on this topic.

She also talked about landing the role in the hilarious new movie, “Anchorman 2: The Legend Continues” and what she thinks about Kanye West’s controversial “Yeezus” tour.

Check it out and let us know what you think.



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The Chemistry Is Hot Between Beyonce And Jay In Her Video… Drunk In Love (Explicit)

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By Ayize Ma’at

I’m not really a big Beyonce fan…but Daaaayum.  When I saw this video….I had to pause for a second because the chemistry between this married couple (Bey & Jay) was hot.  Based off the comments and thumbs down to this video it’s clear that many people aren’t used to seeing Beyonce be so explicit.  My response to that is GET OVER IT.

In working with couples, the Mrs. and I often see that people are afraid to be their most complete and authentic selves.  We actually teach vulnerability and working to be sooo attuned with your partner that you know all of them (figuratively speaking), as you walk with them toward understanding the essence of who they are at the core of their being.  I’m saying all of this to say that there’s more to a person than what you see.  And that’s o.k….THAT’S NORMAL.

If there’s nothing more to you than what we see…..go see a therapist.  You need  to get to know you better.

Back to the video yall,

I applaud Bey & Jay for making marriage look sexy, enticing, exciting, and happy.  With sooo few images of positive black relationships in the media, this video was refreshing.  If more couples connected like they connected in the video there would be more happy marriages.  If more couples had passion like they spoke about in the video there would be more two parent households.  If more couples talked about each other like they talked about each other in the video….there would be more respect and love between.

It’s not rocket science….CONNECTION is the key to relationship sustainability.  In this video they connected….in the below video we connected……NOW we’re encouraging you to do the same.  As always Stop Playing and Start Pushing.

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Jay -Z and Beyonce Are Going Vegan

We were quite impressed when we stumbled across this recent piece of news.  Jay-Z and Beyonce are going vegan for 22 days.  If you all have been following us for some time you know that we recently embarked on a 40 day fast.  We can’t even lie…we struggled.  The discipline that’s required to deny yourself food is something serious.  We definitely made some changes but we ended up not being as successful as we’d hoped.  We’ll do better next time.  Check out the video below to see why they made this decision.  We think it’s awesome that they’re doing it together.


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Nelson Mandela…A Hero Gone … Who Will Never Be Forgotten

If you’ve ever questioned your capacity to love.  If you’ve ever questioned your capacity to forgive.  If you’ve ever questioned your capacity to be compassionate.  If you’ve ever questioned your capacity to fight.  If you’ve ever questioned your ability to overcome.  If you’ve ever questioned your capacity keep pushing when you’re tired.  If you’ve ever questioned your capacity to be a beacon of light to those living in darkness…..you need only look at the greatness of Nelson Mandela and understand that if he can do “it”…you can too.

We at BLAM salute Nelson Mandela and offer our condolences to his family and loved ones.

From CNN.com

Nelson Mandela, the revered statesman who emerged from prison after 27 years to lead South Africa out of decades of apartheid, has died, South African President Jacob Zuma announced late Thursday.

Mandela was 95.

“He is now resting. He is now at peace,” Zuma said. “Our nation has lost its greatest son. Our people have lost a father.”

“What made Nelson Mandela great was precisely what made him human,” the president said in his late-night address. “We saw in him what we seek in ourselves.”

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Nelson Mandela exchanged vows with three different women over his lifetime. With three wives, six children, 17 grandchildren and 14 great-grandchildren, Mandela left behind a huge family.

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Mandela married his first wife, Evelyn Mase in 1944, the same year he co-founded the African National Congress Youth League.  They were married from 1944-1958.


She would confess to Fatima Meer that “I think I loved him the first time I saw him.” Working as a nurse, she supported him as he completed his law studies. Their first years together as newlyweds sounded like typical marital bliss — bathing their three babies and cooking together. But Evelyn soon became resentful of her husband’s increasingly noticeable absences.

Anthony Sampson, a close friend of Mandela and his official biographer, claims that he was a charismatic “ladies man” and even flaunted his female “political colleagues” in front of Evelyn.

Then there was, of course, Winnie. They were married from 1958-1996.  Out of his three marriages and lesser known relationships, his three-decade long relationship with Winnie Madikizela is probably remembered best. When they met at a bus stop, Nelson described it as love at first sight. They were soon married in June 1958, just a year after he divorced Evelyn.


But the honeymoon phase was short and sweet. Soon after saying “I do”, she was arrested for an incendiary speech, prompting Mandela to remark proudly, “I think I married trouble.” It was then that Mandela was sent to prison. Over the next 27 years, from his jail cell on Robben Island, he penned loving letters to Winnie. In his book, Long Walk To Freedom, he wrote: “My dearest Winnie, your beautiful photo still stands about two feet above my left shoulder as I write this note. I dust it carefully every morning, for to do so gives me the pleasant feeling that I’m caressing you as in the old days. I even touch your nose with mine to recapture the electric current that used to flush through my blood whenever I did so.”

Less than two years after divorcing Winnie, Mandela was dating his soon-to-be third and last wife, Graca Machel.  They were married 1998 –

Nelson Mandela and Graça Machel

When her husband tragically died in an air crash, leaving her widowed, Mandela wrote to Graca from prison. She was still in mourning when they met in person in 1990, but two years later, Mandela became the godfather of her stepchildren. Mandela was in love again, gushing to reporters, “Late in life, I am blooming like a flower because of the love and support she has given me.”

For Mandela, you might consider Amina Cachalia as “the one who got away” in his lifetime of loves.



Amina, a longtime Indian anti-apartheid and women’s rights activist, became close friends with Mandela over the years. When her husband, ANC activist Yusuf Cachalia, died in 1995, he professed his love for her.

Nelson Mandela is a global icon that represents courage, hope, passion, strength, forgiveness, humility, and love.  We salute you for your sacrifice in the struggle to end racial injustice.  We honor you as a visionary who epitomized what it means to live compelled by the courage of your conviction.  Thank you Rolihlahla.

Nelson Mandela, pictured in 2009, is receiving hospital treatment for an abdominal problem

Congratulations To Shannon & Monica Brown On The Birth Of Their First Child

Congratulations to Monica and husband Shannon Brown on the birth of their first child.  Monica and Shannon have named their baby girl, Laiyah Brown.  This is the fourth child for the family. Monica has two sons from a previous relationship and Shannon has one son with his ex.

Amber Rose Talks About Her Wedding, Her Ring, And How Much She Loves Her Husband Wiz Khalifa

Newlyweds Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa recently stopped by the “Angie Martinez Show” recently and talked about their recent wedding ceremony, upcoming new projects and Wiz’s reaction to her pre-wedding twerking video.  Amber said people don’t really understand how much she loves Wiz.  She said she cried walking down the aisle, during the ceremony, and during the reception because she loves him so much.  Check out the video and let us know what you think.