By Denise A. Dilmore
Surviving infidelity can be one of the darkest periods in your life. Being betrayed, hurt and humiliated by the one person you thought you could trust is life shattering.
Although affairs are certainly not uncommon within marriages, more and more couples are willing to survive the infidelity and ask “How can we get past this and keep our marriage together?”
The largest obstacle to get past is the emotional trauma and the shattered trust. It’s important to know, no matter how devastating and dark the relationship might seem now, it is possible to heal, strengthen and survive a marriage wounded by infidelity.
There is certainly no easy quick-fix. The power to save your marriage from divorce lies within you and your spouse. You both must be willing to take your time, be patient with each other and start rebuilding the trust and communication in a new “different” way. Trying to get back to “the way things were” is not the best solution seeing as something was flawed or missing for the infidelity to have happened in the first place.
Couples from all walks of life, income levels and circumstances have saved their marriage from the brink of an affair disaster. To survive infidelity, both couples must be sincere, committed and willing to work through the healing process. And it is a process.
If there are still feelings between you and your spouse, commit to working on saving your relationship by any means possible. Some couples can manage to rebuild and repair on their own but often outside assistance can be helpful. Experienced marriage counselors offer advice, insight and exercises which can be beneficial. If a marriage counselor is not an option due to funding, there are plenty of online support products or wonderful books from your local book store or library. These resources can aid you and your spouse and offer step by step techniques to help you both rebuild your marriage.
An infidelity does not have to mean the end of your marriage. It can be one of the most difficult challenges you and your spouse will ever deal with but, countless couples who have been on the brink of divorce or separation have successfully rebuilt their marriage. And if others have been successful, you can too!
Denise Dilmore is a freelance writer and the owner of howtosurviveanaffair.ca