By Calle Zorro
It’s a peculiar phenomenon… Any husband can tell you that men and women are different – they think different, they have different ways of reaching the same end, and they march to the beat of different drums. And yet, even though men know this, their behavior and actions imply that women are just like them – that women have the same approach, the same take, the same perspective, the same processes as they do… But they don’t! Women do NOT have the same approach, the same take, the same perspective, the same processes that men do.
So, let’s look at some examples where men frequently act as if women are just like them…
Here’s one… As a general rule, a wife (assuming she’s reasonably attractive) can expose her nude body to her husband and in a matter of a few seconds, her husband will be ready for sexual intercourse. Oddly enough, the way many men go about lovemaking it’s the same as if they believed they could expose their nude body to their wife and she should be ready for sexual intercourse within a few seconds.
Technically, men understand this difference and yet, when they get into the bedroom with their wife, their actions belie IGNORANCE in the ways of female sexuality.
Here’s another… When a group of guys are together in a “locker room” type setting, they have a certain way they talk amongst themselves. Generally, there are plenty of dirty jokes flying around. Usually, penis size put-downs are being bantered back and forth. Often, there’s plenty of talk about “using” a woman sexually, etc. Bizarrely, there are men who come on to their wife in the same way they banter, brag, and bash with their guy friends – although it’s usually somewhat scaled down and softened.
These kinds of guys usually feel genuine affection for their wife and they’re always hurt when their wife doesn’t respond in the way they want her to – and they wonder what’s wrong…
Here’s yet another… Men can have a perfectly wonderful day accomplishing and achieving whatever it is that they are doing, completely happy, and it doesn’t bother them in the least if their wife doesn’t say a word to them all day. They can then crawl into bed with their wife at night and accept her sexual advances as if it’s the perfectly natural and appropriate thing to do.
But then, they’ll turn around and swear that they are married to the world’s most non-sexual woman because she doesn’t respond to him after he’s ignored her the entire day.
I could give plenty more examples but you get the idea; men know women are different but they frequently act and behave as if they are the same – AND THEY GET LOUSY RESULTS in their relationship with their wife.
Now, I’m going to reveal a MAJOR SECRET to you…
This tendency you have of PROJECTING – of acting and behaving as if others are just like you – well, guess what? Your wife has the same tendency too. Let me say it this way…
For the most part, your wife behaves and acts TOWARDS you the way she wants to be treated BY you.
What this means is that all you have to do to start enjoying more intimacy and more sex with your wife is start paying attention to how she is NATURALLY acting and behaving towards you and then start PROJECTING that same type of action and behavior back to her – in a manly way of course. This will cause her to feel a closer connection with you which you can then parlay into a sexual connection.
Calle Zorro is the author of: How To Be The Best Lover Your Wife’s Ever Had (And Get Your Wife To Initiate Sex More Often)