Sexually Inhibited Wife=Frustrated Husband
VIDEO: Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex and there’s no getting around that. But, what does one partner do when the other is close-minded sexually and rigid in the bedroom and they are the exact opposite? Is it their job to loosen their spouse up so they can feel free to explore sexually or should they just simply respect where their spouse is and accept that this is the way it will be…till death do them part?
QUESTION: If a couple is not in sync sexually are they bound to have major problems that will eventually threaten their bond? Leave a comment and let us know what you think.
Their bond is only threatened if they don't address the issue. Acting like it doesn't existed will only have her frustrated and him resentful or vice versa. They'll be ok if they approach the issue consistently and sensitively and take your advice.
It will only threaten their bond if they allow it to! If they don't communicate about it, and try to find a way to compromise or help each other get comfortable, that's where the problems will arise. Hopefully they take some of your advice, especially about the feedback.
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I think that a couple is bound to have major problems that will eventually threaten their bond. I am living this right now. My husband has gotten more and more conservative when it comes to sex and foreplay. He says that he no longer wants to do things that are not pleasing to him. I am at a lose. I am feeling restricted. I have told him this, and his answer is I should accept him for who he is. This is definitely affecting us, but we have other problems as well.
it wouldnt and shouldnt threaten their bond, because its not JUST about sex, however, it would be beneficial for both partners to learn how to be sexually free. My husband cant even talk about masturbating. Ive learned to accept certain things and not allow it to strain the marriage.
it's true…the more comfortable my husband made me feel with my sexuality the more i was willing to explore.
this helped me soooo much! thank you. its really hard to find this kind advice
LMAO He looks like he is gonna get really busy right after this video….really like this couple…
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Sweeping generalizations like “MEN ARE OVERLY SEXUAL” or “black men are out of order sexually and lack discipline” reminds me of the rampantly running stereotype that “black women are bi*%$es”. If “we”perpetuate these stereotypes and fail to qualify our statements regarding the opposite sex than “we” give platform for their continued resonance in “our” community. Additionally, the first part of the answer emphasized respect and reassurance as a framework for creating comfortability for your spouse sexually. Because a man asked the question….revolving around how to get her to open up and be less inhibited, we answered him specifically. If YOU have a concern about your mate being overly sexual and lacking discipline….I encourage YOU to ask a question…. and the Ma’at’s will definitely give you an answer.
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I agree with you wholeheartedly that a couple should discuss sex and their expectations before marriage. However, more often than not this usually isn’t done. I understand your perspective when you say that both sides should do what they are comfortable with. In the first part of our answer to this question I emphasized that everyone is different and we have to respect where each person is coming from. However I ‘d like to suggest a different outlook: Both sides should be intentional about coming outside of their comfort zones in an effort to meet each other somewhere in the middle. At the end of the day, marriage is not about doing what’s comfortable…it’s about stretching ourselves, growing, and going to the next level. It’s our choice.
This is only a problem because MEN ARE OVERLY SEXUAL. No matter how we are wired, black men are out or order sexually and lack discipline. It is NOT fair or Just “MAAT” to slant to the side of men on this topic becasue he has had a life as a male whore and she has not. BOTH sides should only do what they are comfortable with. Both Parties should discuss this prior to marriage. Its not like he became a freak when he said “I do”