By Ken Donaldson
Statistics also show nearly one third of American women report being exposed to some type of abuse at the hands of the significant other in their committed relationships.
In reality, one out of every three is a conservative figure, since the majority of abuse is never reported. These harsh statistics tell us that men (and women) are abusing the very people they say they love, which makes no rational or relational sense at all.
As if divorce and abuse were not enough, individuals are descending farther into addictive behaviors. We’re not only divorcing ourselves from others; through these behaviors we are also divorcing ourselves from ourselves.
We’re not only abusing and being abused by others, we’re also abusing ourselves. Research indicates approximately 10% of the population is addicted to drugs and/or alcohol. The National Institute on Drug Abuse estimates the total economic cost of drug and alcohol abuse in the United States in the 90s was over $250 billion per year.
The impact of the “lesser” addictions of gambling, excessive spending, over-eating, compulsive sex, and cyber-based addictions (internet, video games, etc.) and their cost to society are too vast to even measure right now.
We’ve developed some extremely poor habits and we obviously lack appropriate coping mechanisms.
Will you change for the better or be changed by this negative cycle?
Furthermore (Yes…there’s more bad news!) about 10% of our population suffers from depression. Depression is the epitome of people being disconnected from themselves.
People experiencing depression, many of whom don’t even know or acknowledge this ailment, live in negative energy which inevitably creates more negativity. Without proper intervention depressed people spiral further away from themselves and others.
The inherent nature of depression is such that those afflicted are often so focused on the negative aspects of themselves, on how bad they feel and how bad their life is, that they often miss the good when it does arrive in their lives.
Depressed people don’t notice the beauty of a sunset, the humor of a joke or the warm smile of another. Depression completely disconnects one from one’s true self.
It is long overdue; it’s time to deliver the message: Marry Your Self First!
Today’s educational system emphasizes, to the exclusion of almost everything else, the three Rs of reading, writing and arithmetic. Will these three Rs stop divorce, abuse, addiction or depression? No, of course not.
We need a far greater emphasis on the fourth R – Relationships – to make a difference in the quality of young people’s lives and futures. Through relationship education we can and will create happy individuals equipped for successful lives.
Point is: Men and women today have not been relationally educated. Many come from broken families, and even those who come from intact families may not have had the best role models.
Today, many people unconsciously default to the media (TV, books and movies) as their primary relationship role models. You and I both know this is often the farthest thing from reality. People just don’t know where else to turn for help.
Yes, to stop all this dysfunction and improve our relational intelligence we must all be willing to subscribe to philosophy and practice of healthy relationship choices and the skills which will support those healthy choices.
This starts with you knowing yourself first and foremost!
How? Choose to Marry Your Self First!…and you’ll discover the following:
* Know and live your life purpose.
* Understand and utilize the Law of Attraction and the Law of Action to generate your greatest abundance and prosperity.
* Know, understand, develop and maintain personal boundaries.
* Practice your unique spirituality and live from your Higher Self.
* Utilize your support network.
* Communicate effectively in all areas of your life.
* Understand the healthy, normal stages of relationships.
* Create a relationship success template to prevent relationship dysfunction.
* Commit to ongoing personal growth.
* Develop stress, priority, and time management mechanisms.
* Accept yourself for exactly who you are, flaws and all.
When you commit to Marry Your Self First, you’ll know who you are, what you want, and the direction of your life. You’ll discover your unique passionate purpose and the amazing prosperity thereof, and with all that you’ll be totally prepared to create relationship bliss.
I invite you NOW to increase your relational intelligence, and expand your relational awareness to create more powerful relationships in your life and to have the most passionate, purposeful and prosperous life you possibly