By Howard Guy
When you have no intimacy in marriage of the physical kind your relationship with your wife is on a slippery slope because while some people think they can divorce the notion of love from sex this is not what a marriage is about and sexless marriages have been proven to fail more times than they do not and even if they survive if the issue is not fixed both partners can end up frustrated, angry and bitter.
For husbands trying to discover why their wife has become so distant and uninterested in sex there is one bit of advice that you must heed and that is to slow down, do not force the issue and do not become angry, overbearing or depressed because trying to fix the problem like it is a nail and you are a hammer is not going to work when women’s emotions are so involved.
A woman’s emotional problems is at the heart of these issues you so it is not about physical appearance if you have put on a few pounds, it is not because their body has suddenly changed. Instead the vast amount of sexless marriages (18% of all marriages say some figures) are caused by one or more partners having deeper issues they cannot communicate properly, do not want to communicate or simply do not understand themselves. This can be very stressful to some women and one reaction is becoming sexually disinterested while these issues continue to dominate their mind and body.
So if you want an end to no sex in marriage you need to stop, listen and try to understand the reasons behind the excuses without making matters worse. This can be very difficult and rekindling the desires you used to have takes time and effort but when aroused again the benefits to your relationship emotionally and physically will last the test of time.