“The One Who Loves Their Children Is Careful To Discipline Them”
By Neysa Ellery Taylor
The mere ability to reproduce does not make a person a good parent. Just because your mama was a good mama, doesn’t mean you will be a good parent. Being a good parent is innate in some folks. But what about the rest of the folks? Are they actively seeking training to become better parents?
I readily admit that I am not Dr. Spock or a child psychologist. But I am a scholar (normally, I am called a nerd). I believe in researching and trying different techniques to effectively parent my children. From reading articles on the web to checking out books at the library to talking to youth workers; I surround myself and my children with information to help us communicate better. Why? Because I love my children and want to be careful with the precious gifts that God has given me.
I want to make sure that nothing I say or do crushes any of their dreams. I want to make sure that they know that I love them, support them, believe in them. I want my children to come to me if they are ever in trouble. That doesn’t mean that they get a pass to act a fool, but it does mean that we will deal with it and I will still love them despite their misdeeds. I love my children enough to use care with them.
So take a moment a access your parenting skills. If you have a deficit in an area, work on improving it. Seek help at churches, youth groups, schools, or grab a book from the library. Check yourself. If you can’t objectively judge your own actions, take a look at how your children treat each other. What you see may shock you. When I saw how my oldest child was speaking to my youngest, I had to check my own tongue… Now I make a conscious effort to speak life to not only correct misbehavior but to praise good behavior.
So use care when disciplining your child, but make sure it comes from a place of love.
I'm 13 boy and i get spanked alot with the belt or the cane and it hurts alot but makes me better. I get it on bare bottom and legs and leaves marks.
Can I keep it real? I think more children need to get beatings. And yup I said that taboo word "beating". I got them and so did alot of people growing up. It didnt do anything except instill proper fear of authority in me and in my humble opinion this is exactly what is wrong with our children today. They think they are grown and that they can do and say whatever they want. Not in my house.
Being a parent is hella hard. #frustrated mommy
This is so true. Spanking doesn't always get the desired result. It often creates resistance and aggression