The Pleasure Principle: Will You Commit To Pleasuring Your Spouse?

By Aiyana Ma’at

The Pleasure Principle. We heard Janet sing about it and I’m sure there are all kinds of images that come to mind when you read those two words. But, here’s what I want you to take away from this. Lean in…read this next part s-l-o-w-l-y and really try to take in what I am about to say:

Happily married couples stay focused on one ultimate goal which is to give each other pleasure and not cause pain.

I know what you’re thinking “Whoop-dee-doo. Thanks for that oh so critical insight Aiyana”.  Yawn. But, lean in again read it a little more s-l-o-w-l-y and DON’T MISS THIS:

Happily married couples stay focused on one ultimate goal which is to give each other pleasure and not cause pain.

It may sound simplistic or even unrealistic. It’s easy to say but 9 times out of 10 is really hard todo.

For just one day, try to maintain a consciousness with everything you do, by asking yourself, “Is what I’m about to do or say going to cause my spouse pain or pleasure?”

Really. Get into it. You might even try including your boo.

To see how you’re doing in this area, each of you should make two lists:

One for all the things your spouse does to cause you pain and another which clearly identifies what you would like your spouse to do to give you pleasure.

Now, swap lists, and now you know exactly what to do and what not to do. No more mind reading!

I really want ya’ll to try this. I’m doing this with my hubby, Ayize, tomorrow (we’re writing our lists today) and I’ll let you know how it goes. Let me know how it works for you—and no excuses—your spouse doesn’t have to participate or even know what you’re doing in order for you to do it.

So, c’mon let’ take it to the next level.

Stop Playing. Start Pushing.