By Ruth Purple Marital conflict is an unavoidable element of any marriage. A marital union that has not been afflicted by discord is like a teabag that has not been dipped in hot water—you really don’t know how strong a tea it would make to make. While conflict is often seen negatively, not all conflicts […]
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One of the coping/defense mechanisms that many people use when confronted with feelings of anxiety or fear is DENIAL. We see this often when working with couples. Whether it be a wife or husband denying the reality of their spouse’s infidelity….or denying the existence of abuse ….or just flat out denying the existence of problems […]
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Even though resolving issues can be hard, it is better than trashing a relationship, job or friendship. Here are ten tips to help you work things out. 1. When you’re having a difficult discussion, put your angry emotions aside. You can’t be logical when you’re mad. If you can’t contain your ire, it may be best […]
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By Nadia Persun, PHD She married him because he was hardworking. She was considering divorce because he turned out to be a workaholic who was barely ever home. She loved his smile and sense of humor. Now she was blaming him for being bitter and sarcastic. She appreciated his easygoing nature and laidback demeanor. It was […]
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By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that many of us don’t learn, according to psychologist and coach Dana Gionta, Ph.D. We might pick up pointers here and there from experience or through watching others. But […]
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Me and my woman have been together for 2 yrs. We are always butting heads on little things in our communication about her micro questioning what or how I do things. I give my opinion about things or give a breakdown on answering a question she may have and then she says that that’s too […]
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by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. No matter who you marry, there’s one thing you can count on. Unless you’re able to create an opposite-sex clone of yourself, then walk down the aisle with it (and the technology doesn’t exist yet!), the person you wed will bring with them a reality that at times will feel […]
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By Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Stressful life circumstances such as not enough money to pay the bills, family members with health problems or figuring out who will do what of the too-much work of running a home clearly can create stress in relationships.At the same time, how a couple talks over these stressful problems either reduces or magnifies […]
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By Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D It’s a problem that is probably as old as time. Adult children don’t always choose the mate their parents want for them. Shakespeare immortalized it in Romeo and Juliet. A central theme in the Broadway musical, Fiddler on the Roof, and the current TV drama, Downton Abbey, is the struggle of […]
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Hello…I know that you receive a million emails but I’m in a really bad situation or should I say position. Here my life…I have been with my kids father for 8 or 9 years off and on…in which the last three of them we’ve been married but mostly separated. In 2010 we got married in […]
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An Idiot’s Guide To Resolving Conflict In Marriage
/in Conflict Management/byBy Ruth Purple Marital conflict is an unavoidable element of any marriage. A marital union that has not been afflicted by discord is like a teabag that has not been dipped in hot water—you really don’t know how strong a tea it would make to make. While conflict is often seen negatively, not all conflicts […]
He’s Cheating On You And You’re In Denial
/in Conflict Management/byOne of the coping/defense mechanisms that many people use when confronted with feelings of anxiety or fear is DENIAL. We see this often when working with couples. Whether it be a wife or husband denying the reality of their spouse’s infidelity….or denying the existence of abuse ….or just flat out denying the existence of problems […]
10 Ways To Manage Conflict In Your Relationship
/in Conflict Management/byEven though resolving issues can be hard, it is better than trashing a relationship, job or friendship. Here are ten tips to help you work things out. 1. When you’re having a difficult discussion, put your angry emotions aside. You can’t be logical when you’re mad. If you can’t contain your ire, it may be best […]
I Love You. Now Change!
/in Communication, Conflict Management/byBy Nadia Persun, PHD She married him because he was hardworking. She was considering divorce because he turned out to be a workaholic who was barely ever home. She loved his smile and sense of humor. Now she was blaming him for being bitter and sarcastic. She appreciated his easygoing nature and laidback demeanor. It was […]
10 Ways To Build And Maintain Boundaries In Your Relationships
/in Conflict Management/byBy Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that many of us don’t learn, according to psychologist and coach Dana Gionta, Ph.D. We might pick up pointers here and there from experience or through watching others. But […]
We Are Always Butting Heads On The Little Things
/in Ask The Maat's Real Questions...Real Answers, Conflict Management/byMe and my woman have been together for 2 yrs. We are always butting heads on little things in our communication about her micro questioning what or how I do things. I give my opinion about things or give a breakdown on answering a question she may have and then she says that that’s too […]
It Feels Like We’re From Two Different Planets?
/in Conflict Management/byby Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. No matter who you marry, there’s one thing you can count on. Unless you’re able to create an opposite-sex clone of yourself, then walk down the aisle with it (and the technology doesn’t exist yet!), the person you wed will bring with them a reality that at times will feel […]
Are You Aware Of These 10 Relationship Stressors?
/in Conflict Management/byBy Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Stressful life circumstances such as not enough money to pay the bills, family members with health problems or figuring out who will do what of the too-much work of running a home clearly can create stress in relationships.At the same time, how a couple talks over these stressful problems either reduces or magnifies […]
What Do You Do When Your Parents Dislike Your Spouse?
/in Conflict Management/byBy Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D It’s a problem that is probably as old as time. Adult children don’t always choose the mate their parents want for them. Shakespeare immortalized it in Romeo and Juliet. A central theme in the Broadway musical, Fiddler on the Roof, and the current TV drama, Downton Abbey, is the struggle of […]
Me, My Ex-Husband, Or My Friend?
/in Ask The Maat's Real Questions...Real Answers, Conflict Management, Love & Marriage/byHello…I know that you receive a million emails but I’m in a really bad situation or should I say position. Here my life…I have been with my kids father for 8 or 9 years off and on…in which the last three of them we’ve been married but mostly separated. In 2010 we got married in […]