By Marcia Greer
The first thing you need to do long before your children are born or before starting a new job is to make a list of your priorities. Do you want to be a partner by 38? Are you determined to attend every recital performance of your child? Success will not come without some sacrifices. As a result, you don’t want to be caught in the middle of a struggle between of an important business meeting or your child’s birthday without understanding the risks in avoiding either.
Your dedication to balancing your life and work is pertinent. You need to make sure that you are willing to do anything it takes at work and at home to make everyone happy and satisfied. That said, you also need to make sure those around you know you’re dedicated to them as well. If you have to miss a child’s soccer game or a spouse’s art showing, communicate why. Assure them of your love and support. Promise to make it up to them, and then follow through.
You need to find at least a couple hours for yourself each week. This can be as little as a spa treatment or an hour watching trashy TV. You need a moment alone to rejuvenate and feel ready to take on the challenges of the week ahead – don’t feel bad about that – everyone does!!A Solid Support System
Nothing can be accomplished alone. If this means relying on your partner or hiring a nanny, do it! Do not be afraid to ask for help. Hiring a nanny your trust will keep your kids safe and secure. There is no reason for you to feel guilty as long as you make time for each child. It could be as simple as making dinner and eating as a family when you get home from work. Hiring someone does not mean you are failing. On the contrary, a solid support system will make you feel better about your decisions in the long run.Be Prepared for Anything
You never know what will happen. An emergency at home could tear you away from a business trip. An important work party could be on your anniversary. You have to be prepared to roll with the punches and expect things to get sticky at times. Life is not perfect, and you do not need to expect it as such. As long as you understand the risks involved by balancing a full time job and motherhood, then you will be fine.As you can see, the balance is not possible when you use a combination of the above. If you are willing to accept the given challenges, then anything is possible. Just remember that family should come first in times of need and special occasions.