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By Lana Moline
I know you heard me say that “I had to holla at my man,” and that “I love being married to an imperfect man.” But honestly, I’ve put my husband through some changes. I’m not talking about the toilet seat being up or the tooth paste cap being off. I’m talking about the kind that comes with having lots of baggage that I packed with me and brought to our first home nearly 12 years ago.
When I write, however poetic, I bare my soul but this is by far the most personal thing I have ever written.
As much as we encourage women to stand by their man, there’s no song that rips that sentiment for men. Just plenty filled with the pressure of treating that woman right. I think men do a much better job of holding it all together when things go wrong and we can learn from that. We are so wrapped into our own emotions until we really don’t stop as often as we should to recognize that our men are hurting sometimes because we’ve hurt them along the way. When I think about the roller coaster ride and the part that I played in furthering the problems, I am sick to my stomach. For all of it, I sincerely apologize.
Many of us take for granted that our men will bounce back because they are always firm in their “I’m a man stance.” That’s part of what we love about our men. If they gave in to as many emotions as we do, they would be viewed as weak. So instead they channel an inner strength that gives them the ability to regroup, refocus and come back strong every time. I have to tell you that I love a man with quiet strength who I believe can do anything. But sometimes, the girl in me speaks when his woman should. The little girl sometimes entertains a warped sense of reality and has uncannily bad timing. It is in those moments that I am elated that despite all the drama, he loves me anyway.
I can attest for a fact that the measure of a man in love is one who views the entire picture through the eyes of love. He massages her strengths, kisses her weaknesses and holds her every night until all the bad dreams and fears are chased away. And in the morning, he’s still there waiting to prove it all over again.
I confess, my man’s the one!
Ladies, stop right now and make sure your man knows that you appreciate and value his love!
Lana Moline is an integral part of the Blackloveandmarriage.com writing team, freelance writer and poet who lives in Ft. Worth with her three kids and husband Emile. Married 11 years, both media professionals have vowed to maintain integrity in all aspects of print and broadcast journalism.Visit her atLana Moline Speaks.