Confessions Of Love For My Man

By Lana Moline

I know you heard me say that “I had to holla at my man,” and that “I love being married to an imperfect man.” But honestly, I’ve put my husband through some changes.  I’m not talking about the toilet seat being up or the tooth paste cap being off.  I’m talking about the kind that comes with having lots of baggage that I packed with me and brought to our first home nearly 12 years ago.
When I write, however poetic, I bare my soul but this is by far the most personal thing I have ever written.
As much as we encourage women to stand by their man, there’s no song that rips that sentiment for men.  Just plenty filled with the pressure of treating that woman right.  I think men do a much better job of holding it all together when things go wrong and we can learn from that.  We are so wrapped into our own emotions until we really don’t stop as often as we should to recognize that our men are hurting sometimes because we’ve hurt them along the way.  When I think about the roller coaster ride and the part that I played in furthering the problems, I am sick to my stomach.  For all of it, I sincerely apologize.
Many of us take for granted that our men will bounce back because they are always firm in their “I’m a man stance.”  That’s part of what we love about our men.  If they gave in to as many emotions as we do, they would be viewed as weak.  So instead they channel an inner strength that gives them the ability to regroup, refocus and come back strong every time.  I have to tell you that I love a man with quiet strength who I believe can do anything.  But sometimes, the girl in me speaks when his woman should.  The little girl sometimes entertains a warped sense of reality and has uncannily bad timing.  It is in those moments that I am elated that despite all the drama, he loves me anyway.
I can attest for a fact that the measure of a man in love is one who views the entire picture through the eyes of love.  He massages her strengths, kisses her weaknesses and holds her every night until all the bad dreams and fears are chased away.  And in the morning, he’s still there waiting to prove it all over again.
I confess, my man’s the one!
Ladies, stop right now and make sure your man knows that you appreciate and value his love!
Lana Moline is an integral part of the writing team, freelance writer and poet who lives in Ft. Worth with her three kids and husband Emile. Married 11 years, both media professionals have vowed to maintain integrity in all aspects of print and broadcast journalism.Visit her atLana Moline Speaks.
7 replies
  1. tammy
    tammy says:

    That was well said. And I live the end about massaging strengths and kissing weaknesses, Lord knows my man does this well. Thanks for sharing and doing it in such an eloquent way.

    • lanamolinespeaks
      lanamolinespeaks says:

      Thank you sis for checking us out! Girl, I love me some him. You know what I'm talking about! Thank you for checking us out. Peace and blessings!

  2. Tre
    Tre says:

    THANK YOU…Not many women can express their love for their man the way you have.

    • lanamolinespeaks
      lanamolinespeaks says:

      OOOOO GLORY <cue praise music> It took me a minute to get here but I'm stepping into understanding how to affirm him. Peace and blessings. Thanks for reading.

  3. Brevity
    Brevity says:

    I learned this lesson a long time ago. Men have hearts too. Thank you for the reminder.

    • lanamolinespeaks
      lanamolinespeaks says:

      Yes they do and just like ours, it's fragile and requires TLC. Thanks for reading and commenting. Peace and blessings!

  4. Jeneen
    Jeneen says:

    Sista thank you for this. It put a lot of my interaction with my man in perspective. I have got to do better.

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