Do You Remember Your Vows?

By Neysa Ellery Taylor

Sometimes I think that we should watch our marriage videos at least once a week. Why? So that you can remember WHAT you said and WHY you said it. Do me a favor. Close your eyes and think back to your wedding day. You see it? Yes, that’s you all dressed up. Your hair is perfect and your honey looks amazing. Everyone is there smiling and happy. That day you were so in love. You were giving your all, promising your all, to God and to your spouse, right?

It’s so easy to lose sight of that day. When you lose sight of that day, that feeling, and that moment; that’s when you lose sight of that marriage. And that is why marriages fail. Plain and simple. That one thing turns into other things. Being disconnected. Adultry. Annoyance. Hatred. But it all starts when you lose sight of your vows.

And you do remember those vows, don’t you? I mean no one twisted your arm, right? That was you standing up there, wasn’t it?

Did you say something like this, “For richer or poorer, for better or worse.” But I swear I heard this “I will love you. With God’s help and direction, I will trust you with all of me. I will protect you from any storm that comes.

Your dreams will be my dreams and together we will blind the world with our love. Whether we live in a shack or a mansion, I will follow you.

I will love you when you are unlovable. Even when I don’t like you, I will love you. When you are lost, I will be the beacon that guides you home.

I will develop, pray, and grow into exactly who God wants me to be so that I may be a blessing to you and our children’s children. I love you exactly as you are today and promise to love you exactly as you are tomorrow.

And I can promise you this because I know that God made me perfectly designed for you and you for me. Amen.”

Isn’t that what you heard? That’s what I heard. Now it’s up to all of us to remember those words and live them daily.

Neysa Ellery Taylor lives in Nashville, Tennessee with her husband, Chris, and their 4 children – Asyen, Maya, Preston, and Patrick. An Emmy-Award winning journalist, she hopes to share her passion for marriage and God through her writing. You can read more of her work at

2 replies
  1. Shamell Jackson
    Shamell Jackson says:

    I actually when back to the person who performed the cermony and got a copy of the vows (our ceremony wasn't taped). Some things where happening and I was left wondering what part of the vows included the shenanigans.

  2. Taylor
    Taylor says:

    Yes! This is so on point. We have our vows hanging on our wall.

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