Have A Little Fun And Dream With Your Partner

By  Richard Drobnick – Mars & Venus Counseling Center

We all dream at night.  Sometimes we remember our dreams and often we forget, but all dreams can teach us something about ourselves.  Fortunately, we need not have a M.D. or special psychic gifts to learn from our dreams.  Want to have some fun with your spouse or significant other?  Want to talk about something other than kids, schedules, finances, or in-laws?
Try this …

If you remember some dreams, great.  If not, when falling asleep, just tell yourself you will have a dream and will remember all its details.  Keep a notebook at your bedside.  The next time you awaken with a memory of a dream, immediately write it down in detail from beginning to end.  Don’t wait until later; you’ll probably forget the dream entirely or at least some important details.

DREAM EXERCISE

Pick a time when you and your partner can spend a little quality time together.  The person who has a dream to share will be the Dreamer, and the other will be the Partner.

Dreamer:  Tell your dream to your Partner from beginning to end.  It’s o.k. if the dream does not seem complete; even small parts of your dream can be interesting.  To help enrich your storytelling, try including some of the following:

a. What is the main theme or storyline?  If you could give your dream a title, what would it be?

b. What were the major feelings?  Anger?  Sadness?  Fear?  Shame?  Love?  Happiness?

c. Describe as many details as possible, such as the people, places, things, and actions.  Be specific.