How Important Is Touch In A Relationship?

By Brett Smith

Have you ever held your partner’s hand and felt a tingling sensation through every cell in your body? Ever yearned for a hug from your partner, more than anything else in the world? Is it an essential part of relationships?

Humans thrive on touch. Research has shown that, for humans and animals, a lack of physical contact can lead to emotional disturbances, reduced sexual interest and even a weakened immune system.

Studies have shown that infants deprived of skin contact lose weight and can become ill. Online dating site has found that touch was as important in some relationships as sex, conversation & commitment.

“Touch is as important as breathing,” explains researcher Tiffany Field. Without it, children do not grow and develop.

“Sensory deprivation makes people depressed and immune-compromised, and gives them emotional pain and physical damage,” she says.

We all crave our partner’s touch but it can be difficult for some men to admit they need it. From a young age, many boys are discouraged to go running to their mother for comfort when things get tough.

When they grow into men, they may then associate hugs with weakness, and may show a lack of affection to their partners. Humans not only thrive on touch, but relationships do too.

Some women in relationships complain that their partner only initiates physical contact as a precursor to sex. And yet many women crave physical intimacy so much that they sometimes agree to have sex simply to fulfil this desire for warmth and closeness.

But there is a lot to be said for touch for touch’s sake. Listen up men: try lightly brushing your partner’s arm or gently squeezing her hand as you walk past her. And if you fancy something a little more intimate, a 10 to 15 minute massage from your partner a few times a week can work wonders in relationships.

2 replies
  1. Elle
    Elle says:

    Thank you for this article. My man says he bought to touch me so much that I am going to beg him to stop. Hold on, I'm doing my holy ghost dance…………………………………………………Thank you Jesus! Keep the truth a coming. I love truth, don't ch'all? My man needed to know this. Thank you Lawrd, thank YA!!!!!!!!!! He only think Ima beg him to stop. 🙂

  2. SmoovMochaNut
    SmoovMochaNut says:

    Love for my partner to touch me, give me uninitiated hugs, even to just put a hand on my shoulder. I usually know something is wrong when she doesn't touch me at all or doesn't cuddle at night in the bed. Some of those unspoken things tell so much about how a person feels. But I'm sure it's hard to want more of the closes through touch when the other person isn't so much into it. It's like extending your hand for a handshake – the other person just looks down at your hand & gives you a blank stare.

    Touching, in whatever form, is an important part of intimacy. If you can't hold each other or even share moments with the smallest display of affection with touching, it may be hard to really feel close to one another.

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