I Love Being Married To An Imperfect Man

By Lana Moline

I love being married to an imperfect man.  He’s not very talkative and sometimes falls asleep in the middle of good movie but, truth is, I absolutely adore him.  His imperfection challenges me to look beyond the surface to find other solutions to life. I am more creative, quicker and extremely resourceful.  I don’t know that I would have reached my level had it not been for his imperfection.  I don’t know that I would be as strong had I not cried a few times and had him wipe the tears away.  I can’t say that I would strive as diligently as I do to carve out the authentic me, the one who needs to make a positive impact in this world somehow.  The imperfect man who loves the imperfect me is my dichotomy of love and the older I get the more I realize how important that love is and how much I crave it.

With love, just like life, I want all that is due.   I want the multiplicity of love.  I want the heart racing, anticipation of “when can I see you again?”  When can I hold you again?  When can I kiss you again?  My heartbeats are dull when you are gone.  My breaths are shallow and my outlook is somewhere between dreary and bleak.  I figure if I were married to a perfect man, there would be nothing to aspire to, nothing to improve upon, little still to achieve.  I am imperfect too and my imperfection needs balance and an equally flawed shoulder to cry on in this big, imperfect world and maybe together, somehow, we can define what perfection really means.

Lana Moline is a freelance writer and poet who lives in Fort Worth with her husband and three kids. She has been married 11 years and understands that marriage truly is a journey that is sometimes complicated by our own thoughts, perceptions and feelings. Visit her at her blog LanaSuccess4Kids.wordpress.com

11 replies
  1. Emile
    Emile says:

    I've read this article several times and each time it fosters thought and reflection. I'm glad I'm not perfect, but even more grateful for a wife who can find an appreciation for my imperfections. That perspective alone makes me love you sooooo much more. It takes a unique woman like you to even have that mindset. What I thought were imperfections were only motivators to show I Love You, I care about you, and I'm here whenever you need me. It refines me, strengthens me, and pushes me to higher heights. The reality of our imperfectness is that we are perfect. Not for what we may think that we want, but what God knows we need to truly be the best we can be and experience all that is for us. The essence of Love!
    Thank you for your words. Many will be encouraged, motivated, and healed by what you share with the world.
    I Love You!

    • Lana Moline
      Lana Moline says:

      Wow! I love you too sweetheart!

  2. Jo Ann
    Jo Ann says:

    You really have a way of making us think! Continue to bless us and God blesses you and your pen!.


  3. Kendra
    Kendra says:

    Thank you for sharing such profound and insightful thoughts. It provokes others to stop, think and consider other ways during times when we are prone to whine and complain about imperfections. Continue to allow the LORD to use you!!!!

  4. Nichole
    Nichole says:

    What a wonderful new insight into our lives with our spouses!! You did it again girl, thank you for showing us new and inspiring ways to look at and define love!!

  5. Patrice Richardson
    Patrice Richardson says:

    This is a great article, Mrs. Moline!
    Thanks for always putting things into perspective at just the right time! What a blessing you are!

  6. LaWanda
    LaWanda says:

    Thank you for the reminder of our imperfections. I appreciate your insight!

  7. Patricia Knight
    Patricia Knight says:

    There's nothing like a good brother! I praise God for the one I've got. He changes the oil in my car, holds me when I cry, helps our daughter with homework, and makes adjustments for my imperfections. Even when I'm mad at him, I find his sexiness irresistible (as the marriage vow says, "with my body, I thee worship!). His imperfections cause me to rise to my highest level and accommodate to keep what we've got going strong.

    His finer qualities could inspire me to write a song!!!!!

    • lanasuccess4kids
      lanasuccess4kids says:

      Oooooo-weeeee!!!! Thanks for shraing!

  8. TracyAnn0312
    TracyAnn0312 says:

    I agree. Imperfect person are much lovable that the perfect one. They will make you cry instead feel sorry from what happens. I am also married to imperfect man because he can tolerate my attitude. He is always there to comfort me each and every time I got a problem.
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