By Lana Moline
It’s been almost a year since God blessed us with our home and I am still settling in, rearranging and making the place our own. I think maybe the kids are finally at a point of moving in after their “moving in party.” So it’s starting to feel like home – well sort of. For the life of me, I couldn’t figure out why my family room just didn’t have that “pop” that I want or what was missing.
I solicited the help of a girlfriend who I just knew would have the answer to my blah issue and she did what any good girlfriend would do. She volunteered someone else, her sister in fact, for the job. They are both wonderful so it was great for me because I got 2 for the price of 1.
After our consultation we discovered that my furniture just needed to be rearranged and some of my decor items worked best in rooms other than where I had placed them. We went out to a few stores to look for accessories for my dinning room and kitchen and that’s when my session got really interesting.
As we searched the isles at the store I was proud to share that I had avoided girly patterns and flowers for my husband’s sake and I openly shared my thoughts for the color schemes and how I envisioned the flow from room to room. She listened intently and looked me square in the eyes and said to me “you haven’t moved your husband in.” At first I thought, “that’s impossible, he’s there.” So I asked her what she meant. She said, “you were considerate to make sure he is comfortable but I didn’t see anything that just reflects who he is.” What could I say? She was absolutely right. He doesn’t make a fuss over colors or patterns but what I discovered is that having reflections of my husband as well was the “pop” that I was missing. It is just like his love for me, it’s all in the detail.
Her words still speak volumes to me. It’s not enough to make sure he’s comfortable. I must be intentional in making sure he feels welcomed and at home in his castle.
Lana Moline is an integral part of the Blackloveandmarriage.com writing team, freelance writer and poet who lives in Ft. Worth with her three kids and husband Emile. Married 11 years, both media professionals have vowed to maintain integrity in all aspects of print and broadcast journalism.Visit her atLana Moline Speaks.