Sisters: If You’re Overweight & Not Trying To Change…Please STOP Complaining.

By Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

SISTERS: I anticipate some people will get mad at me for saying this but since I run a blog for women of color which focuses on living “healthy lives” and having “healthy relationships”,this needs to be said and I hope it is received in the spirit in which it is being shared.

If you are extremely overweight and are not making the effort to change that, please stop complaining that you can’t find a man or that you have several health issues.

First of all, a lot of our health issues stem from not eating healthier and exercising. Second of all, I know of no respectable man who wants to be with a woman who does not take care of herself.

Yes, some people have other complex issues; that’s not who I’m talking about.

Make small changes-take a 15 minute walk 3 times a week and build from there….or substitute your rice/potatoes/pastas for a salad. Drink more water etc but please don’t stop after a week or a month and then say “it’s not working”. You have to keep going and never stop until you have re-claimed your body and your health.

Take responsibility for your life and your health-that is what REAL empowerment is.

Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College Professor and Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter