By Pat Jackson
Some couples are genuinely motivated when it comes to creativity and romance. Others take a little prompting and pushing. For those who want to be hopeless romantics but work better when they have a simple guide to work by, there are romance orders that can only lead you to your own couples romance cure. Follow these steps and you might just find that you actually enjoy some of your own ideas that spontaneously pop into you head!
Look at your spouse. Really look at him or her. Make mental notes about all of the things you find attractive and admire about your mate. If something crosses your mind that could be considered negative, immediately erase it from your mind. It doesn’t matter when you teach yourself to focus on the good qualities. Start to compliment him or her several times a day. Pace yourself and commit to giving him or her a compliment at regular intervals like every four to six hours. If you have a watch with a timer on it you can use that until you get in the habit of doing it on your own, which will happen naturally.
Just as you take the time to have at least three meals a day, make sure you tell your spouse that you love them at least three times a day. Successfully romantic couples know that the first thing they should say to each other in the morning before anything else is I love you and they mean it. They look into their partners eyes and make sure they say that they love the other person with feeling. Begin your day by telling you partner you love them and continue at your own discretion. Another great action to accompany your expression of love or to be used all on its own is to give your spouse a hug. Hug tightly, hug gently, hug for a long time, hug quickly, but be sure to hug often.
When you have a problem with your body, you often go to see a doctor to have it fixed or cured. Treat romance in your relationship the same way a doctor would treat a patient, except you are the doctor and your spouse is the patient. While you are always welcome to play doctor in the bedroom, these are ideas that lead to creating romance both in and out of the bedroom. Have you heard that the green M&Ms can help arouse a person?
While there is no scientific research to support such a claim, it is a fun and interesting idea! Take an empty aspirin bottle and fill it only with green M&Ms. Label it appropriately including your spouses name, what the medication is, any side effects, dosage, how many refills are available and the doctors name that prescribed the medication. Place it on his or her bedside table or along with the other medications or daily vitamins they take.
Another version of this idea is to take a bottle of a great smelling lotion or oil and label it is if it should be used like a prescription. You might want to select fragrances like vanilla or musk that are said to have an aphrodisiac effect!
Whatever you choose to do, it will no doubt inspire more and more romantic ideas for your marriage. Once you have taken these ideas and your own have begun to blossom, cherish each one and make sure your spouse knows that every single idea is strictly for him or her!