“Shacking up” used to be considered a social taboo, however it is quickly becoming an acceptable “norm” in today’s American society. According to U.S. Census data..there has been a 25% increase over the past 10 years of couples living together before tying the knot. Why the increase? Is it a reflection of a loosening of religious ideals? Are couples freeing themselves of the negative connotation associated with “shacking up” and deciding to define their own reality?
According to a recent article on BlackAmericaWeb, many couples are choosing to explore cohabitation prior to marriage because they view it as a “less risky” way to test the marriage waters. Additionally, these couples acknowledge that there could be inherent economic benefits to financially pooling their resources together during these tough economic times.
What’s interesting is that while one of the objectives of “shacking up” is to increase the level of certainty regarding the longevity of the relationship there is a 49% chance that a cohabitation relationship will break up within 5 years vs a 20% chance when couples progress toward marriage the traditional route.
Regardless of which path you choose….you can’t escape the fact that RELATIONSHIPS ARE FOR GROWN FOLKS. Considering that the rate of divorce for first marriages is at 51%, second marriage divorce rates are at 67% and third marriage divorce rates are increasing to 74%, you have to be willing to put in the work to ensure relationship success whether you “shack up” or not.