The Answer Is Simple….Stop And Wait. | Black Love And Marriage.com

By Lana Moline

When I turn on my computer, I typically open up beaucoup tabs and multiple windows. Like most of us, I have a lot going on. I want to catch those emails as they come, maybe listen to a little music as well as write. For the most part, this is my normal routine and I can get a lot done provided nothing goes wrong. However there are those times when circumstances beyond my control causes me to deviate from my norm and incites a crazy click frenzy.

It’s bad and admittedly illogical but at the time, it’s what I do. When I am working in one tab and there is a pause or an interruption in internet services I immediately go to the next tab hoping that it will be different there. I usually find that the same problem exists but for some strange reason, I move to the next tab and before you know it every tab at the top of my computer is spinning, the address bar is permanently half blue and I am staring at the computer muttering something to the effect of “what’s wrong with this thing.” I do this every time although I’ve heard that definition of insanity.

Here’s the thing that we must keep on the forefront at all times. Things happen! We can lay out our best plan and execute it to a fault and inevitably without even realizing the possibility – something will through us off guard. Let me tell you from experience, clicking all the buttons will only magnify the problem and cause everything to become even more out of sync so that’s not the answer.

The answer isn’t a simple one but comes when we do what we all hate to do sometimes which is stop and wait. By stopping we acknowledge another variable, perhaps something we hadn’t planned for and this gives us time to refine the scope of our mission. It’s all divine and in order for us to reach our destiny we’ve got to remember that the interruptions play an important role as well. I believe that the moment when we must wait is God’s way of telling us to be still. Think about it – we never regret the insight we gain when we are still. That is where brilliance is born.

So resist the urge to click every single button with the reassurance that everything will work out when we broaden our measure for success. I’ve let go of things going according to plan because that never happens. I leave lots of open space and expect the ride to be filled with many interesting and exciting changes. I embrace them because it encourages a better me. The same is true for you.

Lana Moline is a freelance writer and poet who lives in Ft. Worth with her three kids and husband Emile. Married 11 years, both media professionals have vowed to maintain integrity in all aspects of print and broadcast journalism.Visit her at www.lanamolinespeaks.wordpress.com

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