By Drs. Evelyn and Paul Moschetta
A happy marriage rests on a foundation of unquestioned trust. If you want your marriage to be all it can be, you must know how to create this kind of trust. Most couples think of trust exclusively in terms of being sexually faithful, which is essential, but there’s more to it.
Our research into strong healthy marriages revealed five specific kinds of trust husbands and wives gave one another. Go over the following list and check which kind of trust you bring or do not bring into your marriage. Ask your spouse to do the same and share your results. This is an excellent way to clarify where your trust is solid or where it may need work.
Here are the 5 dimensions of unquestioned trust:
1. Trust that you will be sexually faithful.Without sexual fidelity marriage becomes unworkable. Partners can recover from an affair but need professional help to do it. Keep your commitment to be sexually faithful and if you’re unhappy in your marriage: get counseling and not a part-time lover.
2. Trust that you will not harm,reject or control one another. Trust thrives in an atmosphere of safety and security. Hurting one another, physically or verbally, and then rejecting one another, creates fear which undermines trust. With control comes mistrust so make sure your love is not filled with a lot of possessive clinging which pushes your partner away.
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