By Stephen Anthony King
“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. “Encourage” me, and I will not forget you….”. – William Arthur Ward
In relationships, it’s very easy to tell your partner what they’re “not” doing right; what we don’t realize is that although our intentions may be of genuine concern, criticism will only spawn a negative or defensive reaction. No one wants to feel like they can’t do anything right. A far more effective way to obtain the result you want from your partner is a simple word of “encouragement”. Instead of always harping on what they don’t do….tell them how much you appreciate it when they do it.
For example, if your husband or boyfriend has stopped being romantic the way he use to; instead of boldly stating “you’re not as romantic as you used to be”…. you can easily say “honey, I love it when you’re romantic; it really makes me feel special”….”my big, strong, fine, hunk-a-man”. Ok, the last part might be a bit much but you get the point. Just remember, “encouragement” and criticism both go a long way….it just depends on what direction “you” want to go in.
Always encourage your partner and you’ll live like a Complete Chocolate Couple should.
Steven Anthony King
Certified Relationship Coach
Complete Chocolate Couples Inc.