Healing Is A Process

By Ayiz

While sitting across the room from a couple, I watched his fidgety movements shout an ensnaring tale capturing a 27 year history of hesitation.  His ambivalence didn’t begin with her….however she views herself as the VICTIM of his indecision, his restlessness, his wandering eye…his failure to fully commit to her.  Her pain cast a cloudy glow around her that she’s been trying to shake for years.  His shame oozes from his pours…he doesn’t know how to shelter his soul from the storm that’s been hovering above him for years.  He hides…she hides.  They both are tormented…they both are torn…they both are hurt.  As they sit before us…we work with them…and watch the subtle dance of healing begin.

Coming Soon Page

Shout Out Sunday!

16 Romantic Ways To Spend The 4th of July With Your Honey

By Team BLAM

Create your own fireworks this 4th of July with a little added love and romance! Here are some great tips we gathered for beating the heat, adding a little romance, and creating some sparks of your own.

~Find out where your city shoots off the fireworks display (your best bet is to check your local newspaper) and plan a romantic night out watching the show. Bring along a blanket to cuddle up on along with a bottle of wine and 2 glasses and make some sparks of your own as the lights burst through the air. If you’re lucky enough to live near the water, watch the fireworks from the beach with the added romance of moonlight and waves gently crashing on the shore. If you have kids, bring them along to enjoy the show. All you have to do is give them a separate blanket and you’ll still feel the sparks of intimacy as the fireworks burst through the sky.

~Get a bottle of wine and a box of sparklers (not to be combined) and spend the evening on your deck under the stars together.

~Write your names together in the air with sparklers.

~If you shoot off your own fireworks, check out the ‘Romantic Reactor’. It goes off with a boom, throwing out large gold colored hearts, stars, streamers, screaming rocket balloons, and more.

~Even better, order these heart-shaped sparklers ahead of time and surprise her!

~Head to the ballpark for some good old fashioned fun with America’s favorite past time. Many parks shoot off extravagant fireworks displays on the 4th as well. Check the schedule of your local team (whether it be majors or minors) and enjoy the afternoon together.

~Surprise her with a bouquet of red, white, and blue roses!

~Many cities offer fun and festive celebrations on the 4th. Grab a blanket and a picnic lunch and head out to spend the afternoon together enjoying good music, good food, and good company.

~Go traditional with a bbq and apple pie. Eat by candle light, giving you added sparks inside. For even brighter sparks, eat your dessert on each other.

~Get in the water…slather each other up with sunscreen and head to your nearest beach, lake, or pool. Looking for other water options? Take a boat ride together, float along on a paddle boat, or get adventurous on jet skis. After you’ve soaked up some fun in the sun, catch some fireworks, then make fireworks of your own.

~Create your own fireworks in the bedroom. Add a little massage oil, some candles, and perhaps a few toys. Want to heat things up while cooling off? Grab a few ice cubes and give each other sensational ice massages. Things really heat up as the ice melts.

~Let the music ring through your ears with a pops in the park concert. If your city has a local orchestra or symphony, chances are they’ll have a concert in the park on the 4th. Check your local papers, then head out with a picnic lunch for a relaxing and romantic afternoon.

~If you can’t get a moment alone all day, bring the sparks to the bedroom with some red, white, or blue lingerie that’s sure to get his sparks flying.

~If you’re feeling a little sweet, bring the red’s, white’s, and blue’s to the bedroom with strawberries, blue berries, and whipped cream on each other.

~Celebrate your independence by each picking an activity that represents your independent spirits, then do each together.

~Take a long weekend and get out of town! Find a romantic B&B for a mix of history, romance, and great fireworks displays.

Places to check out:

  • Washington D.C. – Immerse yourself in the spirit of America and independence while enjoying the spectacular fireworks that light up the sky above the Washington monument.
  • Boston, MA – Take in the sensational Boston Pops concert in addition to one of the country’s most spectacular fireworks shows.
  • Philadelphia, PA – Check out the Party on the Parkway Festival, featuring activities, an evening parade, and a huge fireworks show and concert.

 

Ain’t Nothing Like Making Sweet Love With Your Man

Aiyana is very wordy y’all.  She can stretch a 2 minute video into 15 minutes if I allow her LOL.  This video began as a test….a test to see if Aiyana could talk about any topic I give her with a 1 minute time limit.  Guess what the topic was…..SEX.  Guess what Aiyana did…..FAILED.  She failed in terms of meeting the 1 minute time requirement.  However she PASSED when it came to connecting with me and inspiring others to get sexually connected too.  Check out this video y’all and let us know what you think.  Ain’t nothing like making sweet love with the one you love.

 

Is Black Marriage In Trouble? Listen in to Ayize & Aiyana on WOL 1450AM on Black Marriage Day TODAY 3/23 @4pm To Find Out

By Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at

Is marriage in the black community…..

  • IN TROUBLE?
  • BETTER THAN IT’S EVER BEEN?
  • A JOKE?
  • DYSFUNCTIONAL?
  • A WORK IN PROGRESS
  • BEAUTIFUL?

 

Join us on Sunday, 3/23 at 4pm with the awesome @EZSTREET to discuss the hot topic:

“TIL DEATH DO US PART: IS BLACK MARRIAGE IN TROUBLE?”

Don’t forget to join us to discuss this very important issue!  If you’re in the Washington, DC Metro are tune in to WOL 1450AM. If you’re not CLICK HERE to listen at 4pm.

We’ll be  on Facebook and tweeting during the show!

Stop Playing. Start Pushing!

 

 

Household Duties….Whose Job Is It?

By Lauri Przybysz

Most people have been raised to expect that certain jobs are done primarily by one sex or the other. Despite these stereotypes job assignments aren’t written in stone. Many couples shift their roles and responsibilities several times throughout the years of their marriage. Is it time for some job reclassification in your marriage?

The issue may be more serious than you think. One of the main causes of domestic problems is domestic – as in, housework. Who picks up the used newspapers? Who takes out the trash? Who will empty the dishwasher? Who walks the dog? Sound familiar? Neil Chethik polled 300 husbands across the age spectrum for his book, VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think About Their Marriages, Their Wives, Sex, Housework and Commitment (Simon and Schuster, 2006). “Housework showed up right after money as the top issue of discord,” he said. “It was higher on the list than sex, higher than raising the children, ahead of every other issue you can name.” In other words, couples can build a happier marriage by finding better ways to share the mundane tasks of their life together.

Sometimes a wife clings to more than her share of the housework out of a need to meet the expectations – real or imagined – of her mother or friends. Even if her husband is willing, the quality of his help leaves something to be desired, in her mind. Or if a man prides himself in a spotless car, the way his dad always did, he may be against  letting his wife take on that task.

Blending our two worlds and creating a partnership of life and love sometimes comes down to changing how we wash the dishes, make the bed, or store the groceries. We can let go of our idea of perfection in order to accept the help of our spouse. Sharing tasks means more time at the end of the day for us to appreciate each other. It is about making our relationship a priority.

Hang Out With Ayize & Aiyana & Learn How To Turn Up The Love & Sex In Your Relationship! JAN. 12TH @ 9PM.

By Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at

Hey Fam! We are soooo excited and pleased to announce our new Relationship Renovation series that will be kicking off in January 2014!

As we sat and talked and evaluated how 2013 has been for us and what our goals for 2014 should be we kept coming back to the idea that we want to connect more, help more, and do more. Yes, that’s what we said—In 2014 we want to:

CONNECT MORE…..to you

HELP MORE……for you and

DO MORE……with you  🙂

We said “How can we be the most helpful and make the most impact?” We asked you on Facebook and Twitter and via our other social media platforms and YOU ANSWERED. You said you wanted to talk with us more about very important topics that so many of you are dealing with in your relationships. We received such great feedback and so many different topics that we decided to begin a Bi-Weekly Relationship Renovation Series. 

  •  This is where we will discuss important, juicy, fun, and fundamental issues that are relevant to relationships of all kinds.
  •  This is where you will have the opportunity to participate!  How? You can be “on” with us to share your story or ask a question as it relates to the theme of the Hangout. You can also share by asking questions when we have our “Ask Us Anything”Hangouts. And, of course you can chat with us during the Hangout as well.
  •  This is where you can come every 2 weeks to “go to school” and get insight and answers on all things relationships!

So, save the date for AYIZE & AIYANA’S  FIRST RELATIONSHIP RENOVATION HANGOUT WHERE WE WILL TALK ABOUT HOW TO TURN UP THE LOVE & SEX  IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

WHEN: THURSDAY, JAN 12, 2014

WHAT TIME: 9PM

WHERE: https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/115322807699470470126/events/cpei4jicmq9at68295i830fcil8

For our first Hangout–We’re looking for singles or couples that would like to be featured on the Hangout. You should be willing to either share your story around sex and intimacy and/or ask a question. No questions are off limits. Any issue you have when it comes to sex and intimacy in your relationship(s)–past or present—BRING IT. We want to hear it!

Interested? Send an email with your issue or question to askus@bintentional.com or by clicking here: http://www.blackloveandmarriage.com/ask-the-maats/
***ATTENTION*** YOU MUST PUT THE WORDS GOOGLE HANGOUT SOME WHERE IN THE SUBJECT LINE OR IN THE BODY OF THE EMAIL PLEASE!!! REMEMBER, WE DO ADVICE VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE AND IF YOU DON’T LET US KNOW THAT YOU’RE RESPONDING TO THE GOOGLE HANGOUT CALL FOR PARTICIPANTS THEN YOUR EMAIL WILL GO TO THE BACK OF A VERY LONG WAITLIST OF FOLKS WAITING FOR US TO ANSWER THEIR VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE.

TO JOIN THE HANGOUT ENTER BELOW:

Screen shot 2013-12-30 at 4.02.12 AM

 

How Did We Begin Blogging? Where And How You Can Begin Too.

By Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at

We received  some questions from one of our team members recently…..and they are questions that we hear quite often actually. Here are the questions:

Can I ask you a question? How did you start blogging? What was your motivation? What did you do to get started? I have so many ideas that I just don’t know where to get started at.

And, here’s our response:

Let us know your thoughts!

#StopPlayingStartPushing

Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at are relationship experts and internet marketers who are teaching people how to build healthy relationships and home based businesses online.They have been featured on The Oprah Winfrey NetworkDr. Drew’s Life Changer’s, TV One, and other media platforms.  If you’d like to join their team and be inspired by our passion to help you take your love life and your business to the next level then………..

CLICK HERE