By Ayize Ma’at
Instead of hating on black women let’s start lifting up and loving on black women. We are them and they are us.
In a recent interview with NPR.org host Michelle Martin, comedian/actor D.L. Hughley made some controversial statements regarding his dislike of women, especially black women.
Really D.L…..really? I don’t know if it’s schtick or what…but what I do know is that it’s insensitive, disrespectful, and asinine for you to passionately and categorically assert that BLACK WOMEN ARE MESSED UP AND ANGRY ALL THE TIME. C’mon son…you know better but you choose to identify and put forth the worse. Sample generalization is not applicable when it comes to black women as a whole. Black women are diverse. Black women are multi-dimensional. Black women are perfectly imperfect. Black women are beautiful. Black women deserve respect. PERIOD!!!
On his dislike of women:
MARTIN: You don’t like women?
HUGHLEY: I don’t like the way they process – no, I don’t. I enjoy their company. I do not like the way that they reason. You can’t understand them.
MARTIN: Well, for a man who has been married for 26 years and has two daughters – you have three children overall, two daughters and a son – you don’t think you’ve figured it out?
HUGHLEY: Do you think any man has figured it out? Anyone? Anyone? Name me a man who says I’ve figured women out, I got it.My daughters, who I love immensely, are so certain, like if a man can have a face only a mother can love, then women can have personalities only fathers can love.
On black women:
MARTIN: …black women is – the only black woman you could be married to is your wife.
MARTIN: …black women are so messed up? I mean what – or because she’s so great?
I mean I’m sure she’s great but…
HUGHLEY: Well, in her ability to kind of tolerate my – it’s her ability to tolerate me, A) and B) I’ve never met an angrier group of people. Like black women are angry just in general. Angry all the time. My assessment, out of, just in my judgment, you either are in charge or they’re in charge, so there’s no kind of day that you get to rest(ph).
MARTIN: I have to ask whether is it because black women are an easy target?
MARTIN: And so you can say these things because nobody is going to…
HUGHLEY: Do you think black women are an easy target?
MARTIN: Well, I mean I’m thinking you or – one of the ways you came to public attention is your defense of Don Imus for calling the Rutgers women’s basketball team nappy headed ho’s…
MARTIN: …and I understand that your defense was free speech, which I think many people understand. But if you think he’d said that about another group of women, that that would’ve been considered funny?
HUGHLEY: I can’t, really, that’s like, I can’t disprove or prove a negative, but I can say this: that I have defended any number, I have defended Michael Richards for the N-word. I’ve defended Tracy Morgan for his comments. I defended Rush Limbaugh. You know, to me, you know, what people are talking about has never really kind of worked its way into my mindset. It is the idea that they have the right to say it. So I think that’s really kind of an unfair – optically, that looks different than the way I see things. But…
HUGHLEY: …I don’t think black women are easy targets at all. I respect them great – a great deal. I think that to pretend like I don’t see things the way that I do is to do a disservice to them.