Week Of Give Aways #4: Enter For Your Relationship Care Package: 7 Free Marriage Movies & Books!
We’re celebrating our 100th Video with an entire week of give aways and today marks Give Away # 4! We’re giving away 7 Free Marriage Movies & Books! Knowledge is Power. Doing something with that knowledge is even better! Go ahead and Enter! Leave a comment below with one of the most important things you feel black people need to work on to improve our relationships. Don’t forget to leave your email address in the email field so we can enter you and contact you if you’re the winner. If you want to be anonymous then make up a name when leaving a comment—just be sure that your email address is correct. The winner will be selected randomly. It won’t cost you a thing. This is our way of saying thank you for helping www.Blackloveandmarriage.com become it all it has (and all it is yet to be!) The winner will be announced next Thursday, Oct. 14th. Happy Thursday! See you back tomorrow for Give Away #5!
You Saved Me
With African American marriage numbers at an all time low and African American divorce numbers at an all time high the hopes of positive, lasting, relationships look bleak until now. Executive Producers Lamar and Ronnie Tyler bring real married couples to the screen to chronicle the greatest love stories ever told. These real couples explain how their marriages had a direct impact on their lives. Featuring candid and transparent looks inside of the hardships, trials, and ultimate success stories of these amazing couples. YOU SAVED ME offers an unprecedented look inside of real relationships and what is required to sustain them.
Not Easily Broken
A couple’s strength and faith are tested after the wife is injured in a car crash and husband becomes attracted to another woman.
Fireproof
A heroic fireman locked in a failing marriage accepts his father’s challenge to take part in a 40-day experiment designed to teach both husband and wife the true meaning of commitment in this faith-based marriage drama starring Kirk Cameron and Erin Bethea. When he’s battling blazes, Capt. Caleb Holt (Cameron) adheres to the old firefighter’s adage about never leaving your partner behind; back at home, it’s an altogether different story. Caleb and his wife Catherine (Bethea) have been married for seven years, but lately arguments over career, housework, finances, and outside interests have driven the once-happy couple hopelessly apart. Just as Caleb and Catherine prepare to officially dissolve their marriage, Caleb’s father John (Harris Malcolm) presents his son with a most unusual challenge: commit to a 40-day experiment called “The Love Dare,” and take one last shot at saving his marriage. While at first Caleb agrees to take a chance on “The Love Dare,” the discovery that it’s closely tied in with his parent’s newfound faith causes him to momentarily reconsider. Still, Caleb carries on with the experiment despite being constantly rejected by his skeptical, embittered wife. When Caleb asks his father how he can be expected to love someone who refuses to give him a fair chance, John tells his son that this is precisely the same love that God shows for humankind. Now, with a little help from above, the man who makes headlines for saving lives will fight to be a hero to the one person who matters most — his wife.
Happily Ever After: A Positive Image Of Black Marriage
From the creators of the award winning website Black and Married With Kids.com comes a ground breaking documentary set to challenge negative stereotypes surrounding marriage and parenting in the black community. Couples and experts discuss topics such as the image and portrayal of black marriages and families, the effect the Obamas will have on marriage in the black community and the importance of parenting.
The Conversation:
How Black Men & Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships
African Americans have always turned to family in times of need. But now, this proud and strong legacy is in peril. Black men and women have stopped communicating effectively, threatening the relationships and marriages necessary to sustain the Black family. In this moving and practical book, Hill Harper — bestselling author, NAACP Image Award winner, and CSI: NY star — undertakes a journey both universal and deeply personal in search of answers to this dilemma.
Turn Up The Heat: A Couple’s Guide To Sexual Intimacy
One of God’s greatest gifts is the pleasure and privilege of sex within marriage. Dr. Kevin Leman knows even married people have lots of questions about sex, but sometimes they feel too embarrassed to ask or don’t know where to turn for the best answers. For all those questions readers couldn’t imagine asking their pastor or even their close friends, Dr. Leman is ready with open ears and expert advice. Often asked about sex and intimacy as he speaks and travels, he bets that some of those questions are the ones readers want answered too. With his trademark humor and wit, he offers frank answers to the burning questions all of us have about sex. Covering such topics as God’s original intentions for sex, body image, attraction, expectations, sex drive, sex after children arrive, and much, much more, Turn Up the Heat is comprehensive in scope and just what the doctor ordered. Readers will not only get the answers they crave but plenty of the hearty chuckles they expect from Leman. Perfect for newlyweds or couples who have been married for years.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.Skillful communication is within your grasp!
I think we need to be more selfless to improve our relationships. Its not about finding the right person. Its about being the right person.
we need love. God is love. it ls truth, trust, & real talk that allows a relationship to become a commitment for life, the good & the bad.
I think we need to work on positivity. Too often we take on labels and stereotypes and wear them as if they are true without taking the time to really figure out if the label fits.
I know this is not an original answer, but COMMUNICATION is definitely a huge thing that needs to be worked on in my own relationship.
Additionally, a refusal to believe the hype and glamorization of the ills that plague our community the most: single parenthood, cohabitation, no marriage, just the whole putting the cart before the horse attitude that can be found so prevalently in our community.
I think one thing we need to work on is communication. Daily life and marriage is based on communication and without it many marriages will fail. We have recently made time at least 30 minutes each night after the kids are in bed, just to talk about the day and enjoy each others company.
One of the things black people need to work on is valuing each other. My husband and I were just talking about how so many people in general don't value life…the same is true for relationships. We need to see each other as wonderfully, worthy people who matter. Each of us has value, and in our relationships we need to honor that and treat each other as important – which doesn't happen as much as it should.
My husband and I think the most important thing, overall, that black people need to work on to improve our relationships is commitment. We feel it encompasses so many other values that are vital to maintaining a relationship, like trust, honesty, respect, and loyalty, just to name a few. It just seems that now-a-days black people, heck all people for that matter, are so caught up on instant gratification. People start and finish off relationships like the seasons begin and end. The first sign that the relationship appears to be a little work and people are out the door. True commitment means you work at maintaining what you have even when things are great and have the tenacity to endure whatever life may bring to you as a couple.
Unconditional love and acceptance. I'm the first to admit that I have work to do in this area! When I realized how judgemental I was, I had to back up, reflect and regroup. I also realized that I was turning my love on and off, depending on how my husband treated me. That's selfish and childish! Unconditional love is fully loving and accepting your spouse no matter what, through every trial, in spite of ugly words exchanged, when you feel like it and when you don't. I believe unconditional love will repair our broken trust in one another.
We need to work on letting our guards down. Your loved one is not the cold world… your loved one..loves you therefore letting them in is essential.
The main thing that black males and females need to do in order to improve their relationships is : BEGIN TO UNDERSTAND THE SYSTEM OF RACISM ( WHITE SUPREMACY) – what it is, and how if functions. http://blogtalkradio.com/victim-of-racism
When you don't understand that, everything else you THINK you understand will only confuse you more. Through the radio sow listed above, I have been excellently informed and now understand why there are so many deficencies in our communication, why so many black females see black males as the enemy when we shouldn't.. I now understand that making it VERY difficult for black males to get and keep a job is a STRATEGIC move of warfare that has been employed by our enemy since the day that the 15th amendment outlawed chattel slavery.
The prison system is nothing more than a revived and refined plantation and system of slavery that waits for our male children to come of age. For that matter, so are the education and special education systems. If we understood that circumstances that we face are not just "it happens to be that ways" but strategies of war waged by the government and the collective of white supremacy beneficiaries, I think that we would work more intently and have more understanding of each other.
Once I understood more about this system and how it works to pit us against our men, before and during marriage, I can observe how much we play into the hands of our enemies and destroy our own families and relationships.
* I also think that Black females really need to understand the purpose and effects of feminism on our psyche and how it works to DESTROY stable homes and family. That was a white female's war with HER man, not ours. Our men have never oppressed us. The CIA financed much of that movement. We should ALL know that the CIA has never been and will never be a friend to Black people.
If he or she is not saved now, then please don't expect them to get saved after you say I do, especially after they see you disobey God by being unequally yoked to them. That's most important thing black people need to work on to improve our relationship.God knows the end as well as the beginning, so his advice is priceless when it comes to marriage and family.
One very important key is trust. A lot of people have stopped being able to trust each other (for various reasons) and as long as there is a problem with this, there may always be obstacles that divide unity…
One thing we should work on to improve relationships in the black community is getting rid of one fits all mentallity. Just because one has had a few bad relationships does not mean all others will be the same.
I feel that we need to learn to see things through our spouses eyes. That's one of the things that I love about your advice. We get to see both the male and female perspective of the issues. Men and women are truly different beings!!
The one thing we need to know is the art of effective communication and how to use it constantly.
Listening to your heart and pay heed to what it has to tell you. You know what it feels like to do what is right by you mate, and you know the feeling of doing what is wrong. Choose to do what is right. Your heart knows that what is right is best for you and your relationship.
You are most effective when you work toward the values that are truly important to you. You won't get very far by working against them. Your thoughts and actions matter very much, and yet they are driven by something even deeper. Every thought, every action is undertaken by the person you truly are.
Wow what a great collection to read/watch when it comes to relationships.
Communication. I am guilty of having conversation in my head and not sharing my thoughts and feelings with my spouse.
I think one thing we need to work on is trust. Without trust in all aspects of your marriage you're doomed for failure,
I have a couple of these movies, but I'm gonna make sure I put all of these on my list to read/watch! It's like a relationship care package 🙂 How exciting!
Wow K.O. We like that….we about steal that from you LOL. Watch how the title changes in about 5 minutes.
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LOL!!! You two inspire me everyday…I'm glad I can send a little inspiration your way! The power of brainstorming with others!