EXCLUSIVE: BLAM Interviews Houston Family Living In Storage Shed That Had Children Taken By CPS

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Nearly everyone has heard about the Leonard family from Houston that had their 6 children taken away from them by CPS because they were living in a storage shed. Well…we at blackloveandmarriage.com were granted an interview with Prince and Charlamayne Leonard and were fortunate to get a first hand account of what happened and how their family is doing today.

Check out the interview and hear about the circumstances (youngest child nursing, CPS offered no help, donated house ain’t all it’s made out to be, being forced to live a new life, etc.) surrounding their terrible ordeal. We know that there are varying opinions about whether or not their living conditions were acceptable. However, our aim in this interview is to go beyond the surface and the temptation to look only at their methods (i.e., choosing to make their home in a storage unit). Rather, we want to examine their intentions, actual results in their apparently very well adjusted children, and the heart of what they were attempting to do. As always, here at BLAM, we are 100% about promoting open-minded examination and exchange in every area of our lives. Things are not always as they seem. It is our intention that someone, if just one, is enlightened, challenged, & elevated by this story.

Lastly, Prince Leonard has provided their bank account info if you feel so inspired to help them through these trying times.

Bank Of America

Acct# 488029678611

Routing # 111000025

BLAM Fam thanks in advance for listening and  for your care, concern, and donations to this family.

How To Create A Strong Step Family

By Alyssa Johnson

“Help! I don’t love my step-kids! Now what do I do?” If there’s one question I get asked more than any other, this is it! Whether the couple is engaged and preparing to combine families or they are already married, this is a common fear.

My reply to this is, “Who told you you had to love your step-children?” The problem with this question is that you’re trying to play a new game with old rules! Let me explain. You’re assuming that because you love your own children, you should love your partner’s children because now you are (or soon will be) their step-parent. The “old rules” you’re playing by are for nuclear families. I think just about anyone would look at you weird if you didn’t love your biological children. You been a part of their lives since birth.

Is it fair to expect yourself to love children, whom you may have only known for a few months, to the same degree as you love your own children? Does that even make sense? NO!

This isn’t a nuclear family! The “new game” is a step family. Those old rules don’t work here. Instead, they just cause guilt and frustration. Your goal should NEVER be to emulate a nuclear family. Instead, it should be to have a healthy and happy step family. Does that mean a step family is less than a nuclear family? Absolutely not!! It just means they’re different.

A step family matures in stages. As those stages progress the feelings that everyone has for one another should progress as well. In those beginning stages, everyone is awkward and uncomfortable. It may feel like all of the sudden, you’re living with a bunch of strangers.

I often advise new step-parents to try to focus on developing a “coach type” relationship with their step-children early on. Kids look up to a coach because they are another adult who is fun and can teach them things. A coach’s role is NOT a disciplinarian and they aren’t expected to love the kids they work with.

That’s the type of role you want to play. They already have a parent who is responsible for disciplining them and making sure they follow the rules. You should just be a fun person they are getting to know and developing a relationship with.

Over time as the family grows, love may or may not come into the picture. But that really isn’t necessarily the goal. Your goal as a step-parent should always be: to be another positive adult in this kid’s life. Whenever you get frustrated or question how to react, I encourage you to ask yourself, “Will this action lead me toward or away from being another positive adult in this kid’s life?”

So take the pressure off yourself. Don’t forget, you’re not playing by nuclear family rules. Don’t forget that the successful creation of a happy stepfamily takes years, NOT months. Relax and give everyone the time and space they need to flourish.

Step families are complicated. There are a lot of people, living in one house, with no close ties. This can lead to hurt feelings, disappointment, and arguments if you haven’t parepared yourselves adequately.

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Houston Parents Reunited With Children In New Home After Their Children Were Taken By CPS


By Team BLAM

Several weeks ago we introduced the BLAM Fam to the Leonard family in Houston which had the unfortunate experience of CPS aggressively inserting themselves in their lives and removing their 6 children from a storage shed that they called home.  Many of you expressed outrage and frustration over the fact that it seemed apparent that this family was being penalized because of poverty, which is not a sufficient reason for child removal.  While others intimated that if the children weren’t “properly” taken care of then they should’ve been removed.

The simultaneous cry of anger, disappointment, and frustration with CPS seems to have shaken the tree a little bit because a Family Court Judge has ordered that the children be reunited with their parents after having been away from them for several weeks.

We’ve spoken with the father (Prince Leonard) on numerous occasions and he has expressed a sense of relief that his family is back together.  He’s fully aware that struggles still lie ahead as he and his wife endeavor to improve their current economic condition.  Fortunately they were blessed with a “new” house by a “good samaritan” which will hopefully help them to restore some sense of normalcy to their lives and heal from the agony and hell of having their children removed from their home.

We will be conducting a phone interview with Mr. and Mrs. Leonard tonight (8/5/11) to give them an opportunity to tell their story and provide information for those who want to financially help them achieve some stability.  I wouldn’t wish what they went through on anybody, and I know it would be a blessing to them if you could help…anyway you can.

For more details…you can listen to the interview on our site beginning on Monday 8/8/11.

VIDEO: A Look Back At Some of Hollywood’s Best Family Reunion Moments

From “Soul Food” to “Poetic Justice” to “Martin” to “Madea”. Watch some of the best family-reunion moments Hollywood has to offer. Families are so necessary. Families can be soothing to or souls. Families can be like a migraine that keeps getting worse. But, no matter how you slice it AT THE END OF THE DAY—family is family. They help to shape who we are and all that we have yet to become. Gotta love family. Check out these memorable TV family reunion moments.

Source: The ROOT

This Weekend: Alonzo Mourning Celebrates 15 Years Of “Zo’s Summer Grove”!

NBA Champion and Miami Heat great, Alonzo Mourning will host his annual Summer event- The Summer Groove in Miami, Florida from July 22-24, 2011. Where else can you see Dave Chappelle, Alicia Keys, Cee Lo Green, D. L Hugley and celebrity guests expected to include: LeBron James, Serena Williams, D.Wayne Wade, Gabrielle Union, Chris Paul and more? The answer… Nowhere, except The Summer Grove this weekend in Miami, Florida at the Hard Rock Hotel.

Zo’s Summer Groove is a three day fund-raising event that has something for everyone: golf,comedy, benefit dinner, youth summit, youth basketball clinic, and sports conference, and numerous exclusive functions.

Now in its 15th year, The Groove has raised more than $7 million for local South Florida programs and initiatives supported by Alonzo Mourning Charities.

If you are in the south Florida area this weekend, be sure to support one of the many events for this great cause. For detailed event information visit Zo’s Summer Grove.

Tickets for the ZSG Dinner & Gala are still available! Get yours now!

About the Alonzo Mourning Charities (AMC)

Alonzo Mourning Charities (AMC) is a not-for-profit 501(c)(3) public fund-raising foundation. Alonzo Mourning Charities creates platforms for youth to excel. AMC supports programming with proven results that deliver resources to students and families in need.

Family Travel The Right Way…..My Way!

By Michael Covin

We are in the middle of a Family East Coast give back!  We are giving back all the money we made to the gasoline companies by driving from Atlanta north and back.  Actually, it is Bria’s graduation from high school and since they scheduled it on a Wednesday…..(why was that???)  We have decided to make it a week long family road trip.

Hopefully, I wont end up looking like Martin.

So while at my Mom’s and Dad’s in North Carolina my beautiful wife asked my 10 YO daughter to wash about 9 dishes(6 of which were utensils) and my daughter gave her some bad body language energy.

I waited for my wife to walk down the hallway and asked my daughter to come and speak with me.  When she arrived she had tears in her eyes.  I asked her why she was crying to which she replied, “I should not have to wash dishes on my vacation.” I explained to her that we can stay in a hotel every time we travel and when we travel would not be as frequent…well actually I said, “Never.”

I explained to her that I didn’t like her body language when my wife asked her to do something that she did not like.  I told her there will be 3.2 million more times in her life that my wife will tell her something she will not like…and in true ‘Cedric the Entertainer/Bernie Mac fashion’ I told her, “I DARE you to give up that bad body language as a response.”

So I as the leader of the troop have decided to start a new family travel rule.  I think the girls said this makes family rule #1, 365.  I just said okay…and you better be able to recite them…(because I can only remember 2)

We are going to clean every home that we stay in before we depart.  I told them that from now on when we stay with someone their responsibility is not to watch TV in the morning but to clean the childrens living quarters.  (Yep, a super great rule…IMO)

So our next stop is a house with two families and a super great pool in the back yard!!! To bad it not ready to swim yet…So what…we are still cleaning!

Now here is the good part.  There is a high school graduation party going on at this residence.  So you guessed it! The ODCODB Family has cleaned the children’s living quarters and the kitchen is so clean we even straightened out the frig. so all the containers of food will fit.  WHEW! Almost wanted to rethink this thing, but then I thought.  We are going to have request from all over the world of people wanting us to visit them!!!!!!

But seriously, I was thinking as we were cleaning…about how this is going to effect their lives as they grow and travel to visit friends/family.  Wouldn’t you want children around you that were appreciative and knew how to clean?  I think its a great rule and it will go further than ‘busting my 10 YO’s head until the white meat shows.’

SMILE,

ODC

Michael Covin, aka  IamOFFDACHAIN, is a Husband and Dad who is a no holds barred, outspoken advocate for family and functional relationships. He has committed to change the game in his community by pushing educated and informed decisions to be the norm, because “that’s how it’s always been” are fighting words! You can find out more about him at www.offdachainandouttadabox.wordpress.com and check out his weekly radio show on www.everythingmanradio.com.

Should 3 Races Of Dolls Be Mandatory At All Daycare Centers?

Colorado is leading the way in attempting to make the early education of our youngest little citizens as diverse as possible. They actually are trying to do something to make what our children see in their classrooms every day a closer representation to the reality of our country. Some people are ecstatic……others not so much. This is quite an interesting story. Check it out.

From The ROOT:

The state of Colorado has proposed a long list of new regulations for day care centers, including a requirement that they provide dolls of at least three different races (not to mention other rules governing issues including the amount of juice and snack served, and providers’ shoulder coverage).

Some childcare providers in the state aren’t too happy about it. One daycare owner told a local news station why she’s against the proposal: “They are infringing on a lot of our rights. […] We’re not giving parents a choice. We’re not giving children a choice. We’re not giving caregivers a choice.”

We’d hope that daycare providers would want to make doll choices reflecting what the country actually looks like. Really, why wouldn’t you? And is it that hard? But we all know that that’s not where inclusion and equality begin or end (Remember the Kenneth Clark doll study, which has been recreated in recent years? Most of those black kids didn’t seem particularly inspired by the black doll. In fact, other parts of their experience in the real world made them dislike it) And any discussion of race and ethnicity issues in the context of playtime feels almost silly given the ongoing educational disparities faced by kids of color in this country.

As this story develops, we predict a sideshow of a debate the government “infringing on rights,” and a backlash against multiculturalism that distract from real issues of equality that have nothing to do with the toy corner.

Kids On Medicaid Are Being Denied Medical Care

Shouldn’t we all be afforded decent health care regardless of our economic situation?  Well..unfortunately in this country there is a clear distinction in the quality of services provided to the “have’s” and “have not’s”.  We use those terms loosely because we feel everyone has inherent worth as a human being that is of greater value than there socio/economic status.  In the below article from BlackAmericaWeb we see that some children are being shut out from receiving medical care because their economic status is determining the quality of services they are provided.

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Children on public insurance are being denied treatment by doctors at much higher rates than those with private coverage, according to an undercover study that had researchers pose as parents of sick kids seeking an appointment with a specialist.

Snubbed even by specialists whose offices supposedly accept public insurance patients, these kids also had to wait much longer to see a doctor. Low Medicaid reimbursements are the likely reason, the study authors said.

The study was done in Cook County, Ill., the nation’s second-most populous county which includes Chicago, but the researchers and others say the results likely reflect practices around the country.

“People should be very concerned,” said Dr. Karin Rhodes, the lead author and an emergency medicine specialist at the University of Pennsylvania.

The study results suggest many of the 40 million publicly insured U.S. children are not getting recommended timely treatment for dangerous conditions including asthma, diabetes and depression, she said.

“I work in an emergency room … where you see the long-term consequences of people who did not get the care they needed,” Rhodes said.

The study appears in Thursday’s New England Journal of Medicine.

The study is “simple and elegant” and bolsters previous research while presenting a more accurate real-world picture of disparities facing public aid patients, said Dr. Steve Wegner, former head of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ child health financing committee.

To test whether type of insurance influences doctors’ willingness to schedule appointments, the researchers posed as parents of fictitious sick children referred to specialists by primary-care doctors or emergency room physicians. Seven scenarios were created, including a 9-month-old with a severe skin rash, a 7-year-old with diabetes, a 12-year-old with a suspected broken arm and a 13-year-old with symptoms of severe depression.

The researchers phoned 273 specialty clinics twice, a month apart, seeking an appointment with doctors including dermatologists, allergists, psychiatrists and bone specialists. In one call, the children were said to have private insurance; in the other, they were insured through Illinois’ Medicaid program.

Overall, specialists refused to grant appointments for 66 percent of the Medicaid children, versus only 11 percent of privately insured youngsters.

Among 89 clinics that accepted both insurance types, Medicaid children had to wait an average of 42 days for an appointment, versus 20 days for private coverage.

In about half the calls, clinics asked about insurance before telling callers whether an appointment was available. In other cases, callers volunteered their insurance information — and were often told that Medicaid was the reason the appointment request was denied, the researchers said.

Orthopedic (bone) doctors were among specialists most likely to deny appointments for public kids; psychiatrists were among the least likely. Rhodes said an analysis of the reasons offices gave has not been completed.

In about 20 percent of the denials, callers were told they could seek treatment at the county public hospital or at an emergency room.

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What??!! Houston Family Living In A Storage Unit Loses Custody Of Kids


Charlomane and Prince Leonard were doing just fine before the recession hit. But for the past three years, they’ve been forced to live with their six children in a self-storage unit in northeast Houston — a situation that they reluctantly accepted until Texas’s Child Protective Services came in and took custody of their children this week.

The storage unit that the Leonards have been living in is fully equipped with air conditioning, beds, a refrigerator, microwave, a tub and two computers. What they don’t have is running water — which was part of the reason the CPS came in and removed the children, ages 2 to 12. They kept their water in a 55-gallon drum that Prince Leonard refilled daily. They fill jugs of drinking water at grocery stores and use a “compost” toilet, Charlomane Leonard said.

She said the CPS visit was unexpected. The child protection authorities made their first visit and took the children on the same day, said her husband. She is still nursing her youngest. The children were placed with their maternal grandparents and the Leonards are permitted to see them just six hours a week. A hearing is scheduled for Aug. 16 to determine the family’s fate.

The only crime Charlomane Leonard is guilty of, she says, is having fallen on hard times. The Leonards have transformed the storage space into a home — a place that is nicer and safer than the rodent- and crime-infested motels and apartments the family had lived in before discovering the storage facility as a way to weather the recession. “We are not criminals, drug abusers or child abusers, just plain old loving parents who are working hard to secure a future for our children,” Charlomane Leonard said.  CLICK HERE to read the full story.

BLAM FAM…We’re of the opinion that this family should not lose their kids…..what do yall think?

Is Your Funk…Funking Up Your Relationship?

By Ayize Ma’at

For the past couple of days I’ve been in a funk.  Why?…I don’t know..I’m just in a funky mood.  If I really take the time to think about it I can probably say… my kids are getting on my damn nerves….my wife is getting on my damn nerves…and I’m getting on my damn nerves..oops..did I just say that? LOL  But guess what…I’m not really trying to psycho-analyze myself right now.  I’m in my funk and for the moment I’m o.k. with my funk.  My kids can smell it, my wife can see it, and I can feel it.  I know it’s temporary…so i’m taking my time experiencing it.  Unfortunately, while I let my funk parlay….I’m also funking up my relationship.

But you know what yall…even when you want to be funky and when you’re o.k. with being all up in your funk…If you’ve got a wife and children that love you, they somehow have a way of magically making your funk disappear.  To be real it’s gradual…but before you know it…it’s gone.  Just yesterday…while i was sitting in my funk Aiyana gave me a kiss on my forehead, then a kiss on my left eye, then a kiss on my right eye, then a kiss on my left cheek, then a kiss on my right cheek, then a kiss on my lips.  In that moment I felt lighter, I felt cleaner, I felt better.  Earlier tonight my 5 year old daughter lay next to me rubbing my belly while I was chillin’ in the bed.  In that moment I felt lighter, I felt cleaner, I felt better.

With all that being said….you are probably gonna be funky at some point or another in your life.  And it’s a good chance your funk will probably start to funk up your relationships.  Just know that it’s all good…..it’s a part of life.  As long as you got people around you that genuinely love you ..I guarantee you will begin to feel lighter, cleaner, and better…and ultimately STOP FUNKING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP.