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Should We Become Legal Guardians of Our Cousin’s Child As We Promised?
Couple In Conflict (and working it out) 🙂
Back when we were dating my wife’s cousin asked if we would be Godparents to her daughter. We both said yes without much hesitation mainly because she was a young single mom and we were big supporters for her. I wanted her to know we had her back and we still do. Except now, she’s gotten into some major trouble with the law and may be locked up for like 5 years! We have her daughter now but I can’t see the next 5 years! Times are hard and money has been tight. We’re supposed to be trying to pay down debt and get our finances in order. We just can’t do that the way we need to with another mouth to feed. My main reason for not wanting to become legal guardians is because when I said yes to being a Godparent I never thought for a minute that I would have to take responsibility for her child because of some crazy irresponsible behavior that got her locked up. And, there are other family members we can talk to about taking her. I think we should at least call a family meeting to talk about the options.
I can’t believe that my husband doesn’t take our commitment to be our little cousin’s Godparents seriously! The mere fact that he wants to back out makes me question his integrity. I have no idea why he feels like the fact that my cousin is locked up makes a difference. The child is the one left vulnerable and we are the ones everyone expects to take care of her because we are the Godparents! I don’t want to even have a conversation with any of my family about “other options”. I think it’s unfair to put my family in that position. When I make a commitment, my word is my bond. And, I think we need to follow through on our commitment. It won’t be easy but we are not destitute and living in poverty either. We can work it out!