Where Have You Been Neysa Ellery Taylor?

By Neysa Ellery Taylor

If you were a frequent reader of MyriadThatIsMe or of blackloveandmarriage.com you may have noticed that there’s been one thing missing – me.  I took a hiatus.  Well, that isn’t entirely honest.  I quit.  I threw in the blogging towel.  Why?  Because my marriage was unstable and I was about to give up on it.  (If you follow this blog or anything that I have written, I am sure you can read between the lines.)  So I figured, I had marketed myself as a marriage blogger and now that my marriage was seeming to come to an end, then my chapter was done.  When I first started blogging for BlackLoveandMarriage.com, the Ma’ats said something that stuck with me.  They said to “be honorable when it comes to the blog.”  So I thought that since my marriage was once again on unstable ground then my proverbial pen had run out of ink.

So I shut up and shut down.  I put on a brave front and began to look forward to whatever would happen next.  But there is a saying that “When we make plans God laughs.”  Many of my future plans went out the window when my husband was diagnosed with cancer.  I had to pause my plans and remember that I was “Team Taylor.”  Honestly, I wasn’t going to leave when he was facing a daunting diagnosis.  But beyond the illness, we talked and talked and talked some more.  I guess there is something to be said about open communication when you don’t have anything to lose.  So those talks have lead to listening and that listening has led to more work –  both individually and collectively.  So where do we stand today?  We are still married.  Still moving forward.  Both of us taking small steps toward being what God has called us to be.  Some days it is as if nothing ever happened.  And other days the pain is palatable.  But everyday we are working, improving, praying, and loving.

So that’s where I have been.  What does that mean for my blog?  I dunno.  You’ll have to check back here to see.

Neysa Ellery Taylor lives in Nashville, Tennessee with her husband, Chris, and their 4 children – Asyen, Maya, Preston, and Patrick. An Emmy-Award winning journalist, she hopes to share her passion for marriage and God through her writing. You can read more of her work atwww.myriadthatisme.blogspot.com.