First let me begin by saying Happy Anniversary to Steven Anthony King and his wife Tina. They are the creators of the fabulous Complete Chocolate Couples, Inc. Aiyana and I wish you love and light as you continue to travel on this journey called life. We appreciate your commitment to the Complete Chocolate Couples Movement and we thank you for inspiring folks to dig deep as they step into a greater understanding of matrimony.
By Steven Anthony King
Word of the Day: “Commitment”…. “Individual commitment to a group effort…that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work”. – Vince Lombardi
“For better or for worse”???
In today’s society, it’s all too common for people to enter into marriage with an “opt out” clause or better yet, a “when the going gets tough….I’m out” clause. This mentality effectively nullifies the vow of….or commitment to “for better or for worse”.
We all dream of having that perfect marriage like Cliff and Clair Huxtable; but the reality is most marriages are not like that (at least right away). Once the honeymoon wears off, marriage brings on a plethora of challenges that can be extremely taxing emotionally. But when the commitment is solid there’s a comforting sense of confidence that “we” will get through it (whatever “it” may be).
Commitment, however takes a concentrated effort of mental conditioning. You must first get rid of the reservation (if he or she does this or that then I’m out). From my own personal experience with past relationships, holding onto this type of reservation only weighed me down with fear based, negative anticipation. I was unable to fully commit because I always had this sense of “impending doom” for the relationship. It was like waiting for the right moment to jump into double-dutch ropes laced with razor blades. I had a saboteur’s mentality and acted as such; my relationships were pretty much over from the start, it was just a matter of time.
In the four years that my wife and I have been married, life has gifted us with some serious, challenges; but because of our commitment to let no situation put asunder (or put us under); our marriage continues to grow stronger.
True commitment is rooted in love and “Love….always perseveres”!!! (1 Corinthians 13:7)
Steven Anthony King is a certified relationship coach and the creator of Complete Chocolate Couples, Inc. Visit Complete Chocolate Couples on Facebook.