Am I Delusional For Thinking About Building A Family With Someone I’m Not EVEN In A Relationship With?

VIDEO: Dear MA’AT’s  I’m 20 years old in college and I met this girl about a year ago.  We became friends and became very close but right now, she told me she’s not looking for a relationship due to the fact she broke up with her ex-boyfriend of two years over a year ago. She said she wants to focus on grad school. She’s 24 and I’m 20. We both said we loved each other and Sometimes when I think about her I always think about her being my wife and having a family with her one day when I’m finish college.

Is it normal for a 20 year old to be thinking about a long term commitment such as marriage? At my age should I be spreading my wild oats or does it make me look like a mature man to think of a woman as being my future wife?
How do I continue building this incredible connection that me and her have so that we can get to the point of marriage?

6 replies
  1. William S.
    William S. says:

    Ayize I enjoyed watching you on Roland Martin's Washington Watch Today…..Great Job!!!!!

  2. Khris
    Khris says:

    I'm glad I stumbled across yall. Yall give great advice and are down to earth.

  3. Bejewelle88
    Bejewelle88 says:

    Good advice. You two? are so cute, though.

  4. I Love ToScrub
    I Love ToScrub says:

    The two of you make me laugh 🙂

    Awww that is such a cute story lol. Man, you had the serious hots for her.

    Good advice about building? himself 🙂

  5. Availability Now
    Availability Now says:

    Haven´t watched you guys in a while, you both look slimmer! What´s? going on!!

  6. Ms Fierce 2009
    Ms Fierce 2009 says:

    iam around his girlfriends age (22) and I dont think its delusional or rushing it for him to feel this way. Alot of women, myself included aren't really into being in committed relationships while at the university. In general, It seems like either the realtionship lacks attention or your studies. So ? if he feels this way about her he should focus on himself like Mrs. Ayana said and this might cause their friendship to blossom into something more in the future. 🙂

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