Being Nice Doesn’t Mean That He Want’s A Relationship
By UntouchableGary
I hate being the bearer of bad news but I do have to clear the air on an issue that I’ve had to deal with my whole life. I imagine I’m not the only guy on the planet who has had this experience as well. What I’m referring to is the misinterpretation of my “nice guy actions”.
Ladies, I know it’s hard to believe, but all guys are not raised to be as@holes. Granted some choose to be, because after all you are what you are, so don’t automatically assume that he wants a relationship with you just because he is being nice to you.
Often times a guy being nice will make a woman run in the opposite direction. I guess it’s because they are so used to running into idiots that when a good situation does come along they aren’t mentally prepared for it.
On the other hand, when a guy is just being nice because he is supposed to, he gets the label of ‘boyfriend material’. And there is nothing wrong with seeing the quality in a man that does the little things, but where some go wrong is ASSUMING that he is mutually feeling the same way. Sometimes it’s just a matter of treating a lady the way she is supposed to be treated, nothing more and nothing less.
So there you have it! Don’t jump to conclusions because he’s nice to you. Just enjoy it and appreciate a true gentleman.
Keep Rockin’
Untouchablegary
It’s great to hear that just because he’s nice doesn’t mean he’s interested. It’s the same for us ladies. Often times our genuine kindness can be misinterpreted as flirting. I get that. My question is, if one is interested in a nice guy (not solely because he’s nice, but because she enjoys him), what’s the best way to determine his mutual interest or lack thereof without injuring the friendship? The assumption is he’s reasonsble easy to talk to, but if he’s accustomed to his female friends and acquaintances falling for him because of his good home training, what’s the risk of becoming “another one” in his eyes?
Honestly Laura you would just have to put all your cards on the table and go for it. If he feels mutually the same then yall will hit it off.(i'm not assuming that we are talking about you, i'm just speaking in general). there is no safe or easy way around it.
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“Often times a guy being nice will make a woman run in the opposite direction.”
Just b/c a man is “nice” and a woman doesn’t like him doesn’t mean she doesn’t like nice guys; she just doesn’t like YOU. This could be simply b/c there’s no connection there. Being w/a nice guy doesn’t equate to being happy. There are plenty of women that know the diff. and are used to being treated like a lady and won’t accept nothing less!
I think women are so excited to actually be treated like a lady for once they get carried away. There is nothing more embarassing as rejection…I always think of the movie, "He's Just Not That Into You."
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This is soooo true! Ladies pay attention.
Thanks Curtis! I can tell that you have probably gone thru this a few times also.
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