How Long Is Too Long To Wait For The Ring?
VIDEO: In this video we answer a letter from a young lady who is in love and is sure the feeling is mutual. However, they have been dating for 3 1/2 years. She wants to know “How long is too long to wait for the engagement ring?” Here, Ayize and Aiyana talk about how important it is to move beyond being preoccupied with the length of time you’ve been dating and be just as concerned with what’s going on in your relationship. Are you connecting, moving, and growing both individually and together? At the same time, let’s not get it twisted….there is a reasonable time frame in which we feel a healthy couple should be upgraded from simply boyfriend/girlfriend to Fabulous Husband & Wife!
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I agree with your comment about Circumstances vs Person that was a good point. I think that if you are in your late 20s and 30s, you will know if the person is the one within a year or 2.
It is really up to the individual. I say trust your gut and your intuition. Also if you have been with a person for a couple of years, then he/she should at least be able to honestly answer the question about marriage. And if they say marriage is in the future, then they should be able to set milestones and show progress towards them.
For instance, if your partner says I don't want to get married because I want to pay off my bills…But if they are steady accumulating debts and not trying to make more money…then I say the writing is on the wall.
Thank you for that timely and worthwhile message. I truly loved Ayize's comment, "Men tend to look for the right circumstances while women look for the right partner" (definitely worth a repost!). I have been involved with the same man for 8 years and he often mentions the 'I want to be in the right place – financially, etc.' and I find it frustrating but have been willing to continue the conversation. We are not living together (been there, done that with 2 others and have sworn the next person I decide to live with will be the one who carries me over the threshold as "Mrs. So and So) and do not have any children together. Lately, I have been wondering if I am waiting TOO LONG and if we are evenly yoked to one another. So, thank you Ayize and Aiyana for the food for thought because I know that ultimately it is MY decision…
WOW! Circumstances vs Person. I really needed to hear this a while ago. This is what I love about your webcasts. In just a few minutes, I learn how to focus my energies.