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Should We Buy Christmas Gifts For Extended Family?
Couple In Conflict (…and working it out) 🙂
The holiday season is a massive sales pitch on steroids. Everyone ….including my wife is so hypnotized by the commercialization of Christmas that they seem to WANT to dig themselves into more and more debt. This year I don’t want to buy gifts for my extended family (in-laws, siblings, grandparents) because I feel like I’m being pimped by some imposed obligation. Purchasing gifts for my wife and children is frustrating enough. My extended family knows I love them and this year I would like to focus more on spending quality time vs. spending money. Spending money on this is unnecessary.
When the holiday season approaches I brace myself for an argument about money. I think my husband forgets the feelings of joy he experienced as a child on Christmas Eve and Christmas day. I want to recreate the same feeling for our children. When it comes to our extended family….What is the harm in giving a token of appreciation? What’s the harm in showing some gratitude to your parents by giving a gift? You say it’s unnecessary… but what if your parents felt the same way when they were stuffing your stockings on Christmas Eve? The gifts don’t have to be expensive. But he feels like any amount that we pay above and beyond what we’ve already paid for the gifts for our immediate family is too much. He feels like it’s unnecessary. And, I’m tired of living with a scrooge!
Ok, B Intentional Family, weigh in. Should they buy Christmas gifts for their extended family?