The Awful Truth About Black Love
VIDEO: Brutally honest dialogue takes place between Black men and women about why relationships between the two aren’t working anymore. This kind of real talk has to be a part of an ongoing conversation and is absolutely necessary. However, I’m also starting to feel like the only thing many Black folks feel comfortable doing is complaining and debating about the state of Black Love instead of talking about what used to work, is working, and always will work. Is it just me or does the conversation need to shift?
CHALLENGE: Surf around the web today and see how many positive images/articles/videos you can find exploring black relationships. Let us know what you think and what you find.
@Aiyana I truly believe the conversation shift is in the now. There is a mighty positive shift of what marriage looks like.. 😉
@Kim
Yes, there are more folks out here that care to make a change. We just have to seek each other out and support the positive work and images that are portrayed. Together, we can all shift the conversation… 🙂
.-= aiyana´s last blog ..Negative Co-Workers Are A No No! =-.
I agree that the sounds and visions of “black love” are mostly negative so it makes me wonder if it is even based on love at all. I feel that our push away from God is contributing to all of this confusion and disjointedness. People who think they know, don’t know because they have no fondation of and refuse to know The truth. I have become so motivated by my recent discovery of sites like this one and blackandmarriedwithkids.com….continue to be positively contagious. There just has to be more people that care to make a change!
@Harriet & Tawnya
So true… we must choose to make our relationships a priority. Simple as that. We must continue to overwhelm ourselves and our community with the possibilities and the power that we have. It’s absolutely essential that we B Intentional and do this…otherwise we will find our voices drowned out in the noise of negativity…
.-= Aiyana´s last blog ..The Awful Truth About Black Love =-.
@Harriet & Tawnya
So true… we must choose to make our relationships a priority. Simple as that. We must continue overwhelm ourselves and our community with the possibilities and the power that we have. It’s absolutely essential that we B Intentional and do this…otherwise we will find our voices drowned about in the noise…
.-= Aiyana´s last blog ..The Awful Truth About Black Love =-.
This type of negativity is everywhere. This kind of dialogue does not help people, what it does is help to continue a person in feeling justified for the actions taken. None of the people who spoke appeared to have insight into what really went wrong in the relationship. It seemed to be conversation that they rehearse over and over in their head to help them feel justified for actions taken. This shows why “black love” stories need to be told, couples need to hear about those who make it and those who CHOOSE to make their relationship a priority!!!
This is precisely why projects like your are so important. Really, what we see on BMWK and BIntentional is just as common (if not moreso) than this kind of bitterness, but it’s important to get the word out there.
@Ruby…I like when you said ..”you both are looking for love but you both are trying to beat each other to the point, that you cheat yourself out of what might have been…” your comment begs for an answer to the “why are we competing against each other ….vs cooperating with each other?”
.-= Ayize ´s last blog ..The Awful Truth About Black Love =-.
As long as i can remember,there has been several issue in black relationship….only back in the days,there was so much secreted,everything was swept under the rug,afraid to come out of the closet,cause of the blackness of our skin…now our culture have overcome,we are focus on now,and not on,what has been…Black women of today are making men seem so unimportant,cause of they career,they independent,they’re so direct,what i need a men for ,i have my own home,my car,my money,so what left if he was interest in you,you have cut him down..so he is going to bring out his best defense…he going to let the dog out,you both are looking for love but you both are trying to beat each other to point,that you cheat yourself out of what might have been…somebody have to leave the gate open to communication,to caring,to truth,want to be in a serious relationship,and not thinking about materials thing in life…a men must feel want and need, in some place in you all relationship…What wrong ladies? let the men,be a men, let him open the door for you,take you out to dinner,get your hair,and nail done,it nice that you can do your own,it feel even greater to be independent,need it,and love,all in one package…