Marriage Becoming Obsolete??? Don’t Believe The Hype!

by Aiyana Ma’at  When I turned on my computer yesterday morning and saw the big headline of the day I was instantly—amused. “Four In 10 Say Marriage Is Becoming Obsolete” was the news of the day and the media could not get enough of it. I wonder why it is that the media—shoot, human beings for that matter— are sooo drawn to  and desperate for  “drama” and “shock and awe” in just about everything we produce, read and consume.

Let’s pause for a second here and think about what it is that we’re attracted to. Let’s do a quick test. Which headline do you instinctively pay attention to first. Which would you click on and read first….and tell the truth! 😉

“Tools For Tackling Teen Pregnancy Prevention” versus “The New Epidemic: Teen Pregnancy On The Rise”

“Black Male/Female Relationships In Danger. Who’s Responsible?” versus “Male/Female Relationships In The Black Community”

What about these 2 headlines—which one stands out to you most:

“6 out of 10 Say Marriage Is Here To Stay” versus “4 out of 10 Say Marriage Is Becoming Obsolete”

It should be no secret that “great headlines” get more attention and more attention = more money in some shape, form, or fashion so I guess it doesn’t surprise me that this was the “news” of the day yesterday. However, in my mind after reading the headline I thought to myself…And?…. so what. The majority of folks still believe in the beauty of marriage and the benefits the institution bestows. Here, at Blackloveandmarriage.com folks are trying to “get it right” each and every day and are intentionally pushing to do and be better for themselves and their marriages. We’ve taught, coached, counseled, and given advice to hundreds of married couples around the country who genuinely believe in their marriage and their family and just don’t get down with the “I don’t need nobody” club. Where’s the 50+ headlines (50 is only what I perused…believe me there were much much more) talking about that?

Hey, I ain’t mad about it. Like I said I find it amusing. Just remember this— Always read, listen, and think critically and most of all as the renowned rap group/philosophers, Public Enemy, told us back in the day Don’t Believe The Hype!