[Ask The Ma’at’s] My Ex Went Back To His Ex & Now Says He Wants Me…Is He Genuinely Confused?
VIDEO: Hi, I’ve been watching your YouTube videos for a while now and I’ve had a certain situation that I’ve been battling for almost a year about my ex. My ex and I began dating last year in January, we’ve known of each other a few years prior but in January was when we came back in contact and decided to become a couple . Everything was going very well, except there was one problem, he had an ex. They were together for about 3 years and when I asked him about it, he said that they were done and that he wasn’t happy in the relationship anymore . So as time went on, I never felt comfortable about that situation so it always was a hindrance in our relationship. Until about 6 or 7 months in he seemed very depressed and he’d never want to tell me why but when I finally figured it out, it all came down to him missing her and I guess wanting to be with her again. So that exactly what he did, he got back with his ex, he told me “that it’s just better for them to be together b/c of the history that they share and that he doesn’t want her to hurt b/c they were together for so long” but every now and then he’ll call me and tell me that he just feels “stuck”, one time he even called and said “if I give him another try, he’ll call her up and break it off so we can start over” .
Well I guess the question that I am asking is, is he just trying to have his cake and eat it too? Or is he genuinely confused about what he wants? Is he trying to make me the “sideline “?
God, please help us to have wisdom about the relationships we enter into. Help us to do better than our parents did in the area of making life choices. Help us to stop choosing a temporary solution to a permanent problem. If we can do this these situations can't visit themselves on us. Help us to stop sitting at the table of "maybe", and to sit only at the table of "certainly". Help us to only give of ourselves to people who cherish and love us enough to stick around when times get tough.
Help us to be models for our kids of personal integrity and peaceful relationships, so that when they follow us there won't be weeping and gnashing of teeth. Help us to know that what you teach children, they will do. Help us to be careful teachers of those innocent eyes.
Yall make it plain and I appreciate that. Keep up the divine work.
they're on point as usual. Take the advice my sista!
It doesn't matter if he really is or isnt confused. Listen to that lady. She speaketh the truth, lol.
I couldnt have said it better.
Damn i needed this today. Omg my head have been hurting all day about a guy. This was much needed.