It’s Good To “Go Through” Before You Say I Do

VIDEO: You never really know a person until you witness them handling hardship. If you are thinking about taking your relationship to the next level pay close attention to how your partner deals with difficulty, disagreements, and rejection. How they cope in moments of mild or significant conflict will help you decide whether this person is the one you truly want to spend your life with. Most folks we know try to avoid pain & conflict at all costs. But, we believe conflict is a normal and natural thing. Yes, we will even go as far as to say it’s a GOOD thing. Does it feel good? No. Is it necessary? Yes. If we never experience the strain and stress of pain and conflict with the one we say we love then we never get a chance to truly experience the remarkable healing power of forgiveness, repair, and emotional and spiritual maturation with another person. I once read somewhere that if you are comfortable you are not growing. While most of us would love to stay in La La land with our sweethearts 24/7 that is just not possible and we would dare to say it just isn’t healthy either. We believe one of the greatest gifts of our most sacred relationship is its ability to help “grow us up” mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We are not supposed to stay the same. We are all supposed to evolve and the one we love more than anything yet gets on our last nerve at the same time is the perfect one to help us do it.! At the end of the day it’s really OK to “go through” before you say I DO.

4 replies
  1. Cynthia
    Cynthia says:

    Another great one is Driving across country with them. Day and night on the road has a funny way of exposing the real deal.

  2. Elise
    Elise says:

    My boyfriend and I have been through some things and are still going through but it's Ok. I'm glad we're getting to know each other now. It's only going to make us stronger.

  3. We_love_well
    We_love_well says:

    I want to say thank you for putting this out there. I am one who is seriously in love with a wonderful man. I was one who would not want to deal with conflicts and realized that it is necessary to do so. They are uncomfortable, but I must say that when you do go through it and express yourself as best as you can, you feel sooo much better than to hold thoughts and feelings inside. By going through it, you get to iron out issues that may later hurt the relationship. You have to be able to put feelings aside and say if this is important to me then I will go through it now, rather than later.

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