The Last Single Woman I Know…

By Tracy R. Jolly

…is me. Ok, I probably know at least one other single woman, but that’s only if I think hard enough. Being single is not the problem; I enjoy it. I relish in my independence and freedom (not that married women don’t) and not having to answer to anyone. But I also want to be able to share my life with the man prepared especially for me.

My problem is impatience. I can argue that I’ve been patient; I’m closer to forty than I want to admit and I’ve never accepted a proposal just to get a ring. I’m not desperate to be married, but I’d really like to do it before I enter that new decade. Each time someone I know gets engaged or celebrates another wedding anniversary, after the obligatory congratulations, the first thing I do is question myself. When will it be my turn?

Focusing on humor and work keeps the loneliness away (mostly). I’ve created enough goals and accumulated enough projects to keep me busy for a long time. I have to work a little harder at finding the humor when I’m in that unfunny lonely place, but it brings me back to work which becomes a full circle, productive moment. And even if I am the last single woman I know and love, the point is, I know and love her. So will my husband.

“But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you that you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” ~Sex and the City

“Being single isn’t bad. What is bad is giving up hope on finding that someone special.” ~Anonymous

Tracy R. Jolly is a freelance writer, author, blogger, sometimes poet and budding entrepreneur. She blogs at and can be reached via email at

7 replies
  1. keblon19
    keblon19 says:

    No need to worry sis you can find the best man for you.. Keep safe always..
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  2. Kathy Rivers
    Kathy Rivers says:

    I totally understand where you at Just a year ago ,I felt the same thing…..I was at a place I didn't need someone to feel a void,or to be the one that complete me and make me happier than I was. I had security in who I was ..I was thankful to God that he showed me how to love me and accept me for who i am. When my hubby came I along I was at a place where I wasn't just settling to just be married,I was ready for who God had designed just for me ( I am a lot to handle) ..So this is a good place to be …Being ready!!!! Yes when you expecting a blessing it comes in a way you least expect…

    • MzTrayJay
      MzTrayJay says:

      Love it Kathy! Thanks for sharing and inspiring us single women!

  3. Briana @ 20&Engaged
    Briana @ 20&Engaged says:

    I try to stress this to my little sister. She is so focused on trying to find a relationship, but I want her to be happy with herself first. It's so easy to get lost in someone else and obsessed with your relationship. A woman who's fine by herself is a much better wife down the line.
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    • MzTrayJay
      MzTrayJay says:

      Absolutely Briana. I stress that to my daughter as well.

  4. Sandy
    Sandy says:

    Sista you are not alone. I'm tired of experiencing lonely nights too. I have faith that Mr. Right will come my way when I can truly say I'm Ms. Right.

    • MzTrayJay
      MzTrayJay says:

      Yes, Sandy. We're standing together on this one! I'm continuing to work on myself so the wait wil be productive and enjoyable.

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