Is My “Friend” Keeping Secrets From Me Because He Wants To Sleep With Me?
VIDEO: Some of our friends have been and will be lifelong. Which is cool…..However….having “friends” when you are in a relationship can be a slippery slope if you are not CAREFUL. We recognize that one of the driving forces of “our” existence is the desire for emotional intimacy ….unfortunately some folks confuse and misinterpret the intimacy in a friendship for something more. This becomes all the more problematic when you are in a “friendship” where you’ve failed to establish clear boundaries. At the same time there are those who would rather keep the boundaries fuzzy simply because they’d like to keep the option of getting warm and fuzzy with you wide open.
Here, we advise a young lady who says that she recently terminated her friendship with a guy friend because she doesn’t want to get in the way of his relationship with his girlfriend. She’s discovered that he’s kept a secret from her (a BIG one too…he has a baby!) and this has made her question the quality of their so-called friendship. “Did I do the right thing?” she asks. Our answer….Yes and No. Listen in to hear us talk this thing through.
For me I call this cheat, that is not friend if he is going to bed to just to have fun with you..
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That is so serious issues nowadays. Perhaps its true. They wanted to keep it secret to have an affair and feel free to enjoy whatever he wants.
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Like i always say women have an escape clause. That woman knew the situation from the beginning women are emotional creatures they love to be emotionally stimulated this man served As temporary excitement he was something to do after work or at work. even though they was friends there was a level of excitement .what if he gives up his girlfriend for her that will be very exciting her endorphins would have went crazy but instead the plan backfired and she pulled out her a escape clause
This one hit home with me! My husband and I met 1st year of college. We had a few mutual friends we would hang out with, and we had alot in common, etc, etc and we often ended up just sitting and talking by ourselves. One day I asked him if he had a girlfriend, and I was surprised to hear him say "yes". I asked him right there if she knew about me and wanted to meet me. He said she was cool with us hanging out together. I was interested in him, but I would not have continued to be friends or anything with him if he was still with her (yes I was naiive enough to think he wouldn't lie to me about it). Fast forward a couple months, he tells me that he has broken up with the young lady – he realized that she does not really care about him. Your analysis of the situation was right on point. I would not have been willing to own that at 21, but it is true.
I've always wondered…is attraction the basis of relationship formation? Does some form of attraction have to be present in order for a friendship to develop? If so… it then becomes very understandable that many relationships have difficulty remaining plutonic…because you all were attracted to each other in the first place.
on point Aiyana!! lol ..
Thanks! 🙂