No Number And No Address–Am I Being Played? Uh…Yeah.
VIDEO: We’ve all heard the saying “Where there’s smoke…there’s fire”. In other words when there is obvious evidence of a fire, a mess, or some BS, then 9 times out of 10 there IS a fire, some mess, or some BS going on. Here, we answer an Asian woman who’s written in asking us whether or not she is being played by her “man”. He’s African-American and she says in her letter she’s asking us because he’s black therefore we should know. That makes sense right? No!!!! This is not a “black man” issue. This is an issue where this brother has a crisis of character meaning he’s lacking greatly in that department AND this is an issue of poor poor judgement on this young lady’s part. She talks about how ready she is to be in a committed relationship and spend the rest of her life with someone. She also talks about how “her man” hasn’t given her his address or phone number which makes her wonder if his love is really true. What?! STOP. THIS IS AN ALERT. PLEASE PAY ATTENTION. IF YOU ARE DATING SOMEONE OR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE AND THEY WILL NOT GIVE YOU THEIR DIRECT CONTACT NUMBER AND YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHERE THEY LIVE——THEY GOT GAME!!!! Contact information is a basic requirement….it just is.
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She's definitely getting played, and honestly, it shouldn't have gone on this long. A year and you haven't spoken to this man? You don't know basic details about this man or the intimate ones, so how can you really say you love him? This could easily be someone who's not who he really says he is. Count your losses and move on. There's a real man out there for you.
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This is sad. I'm sorry for this lady that it's also true. Thank God she's never met this brother. She'd be in a world of trouble if she had!
The first thing that came to my mind when I watched this video, was a scene from one of Tyler Perry's plays…Madea's Class Reunion. It's the part where they're in the spa and Madea is talking to a lady (the one that was in the cow print dress, I think her name was Diane), and it goes a little something like this (Make sure you put your Madea voice on when you read it!):
Diane: So, how can you tell if a man is cheating on you?
Madea: You think your man cheatin on you?
Diane: Yes I do…
Madea: That's how you can tell.
That's one of my favorite parts…I wish I could've found the clip on YouTube! But overall, the point is that we have instincts for a reason, and so often we don't listen to what our inner voice is telling us. And I'm not talking about someone who is insecure or has emotional issues that cause them to think that everyone is going to cheat on them. I'm talking about people who are emotionally healthy people. If you have to ask the question if someone is cheating on you or if you're getting played…most likely you are!
Yessir. That's the truth. In my player days my contact info was given out on a need to know basis only.
How you gonna be committed to someone you don't talk to? I mean really?!
Are you serious??? WTF! Sometimes as women we can get a little desparate. I want encourage this lady to keep her head up and eyes open because he ain't the one.