By Ayize Ma’at If you look at any successful relationships and really study it…you will be amazed at how sophisticated, complex, structured, clean, and ……DIRTY their relationship has been. I intentionally highlighted dirty because folks have a general misunderstanding of what real love looks like. Yes it’s pretty as hell….but that beautiful diamond you’re looking […]
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By Norma Stevens Couples often come to counseling with the expectation that they must resolve all of their issues in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. This is simply not true. In fact, marriage researcher, John Gottman and his associates, find that 69% of a couple’s marital conflicts CANNOT be resolved! That’s right! You won’t […]
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By Aiyana Ma’at Ask most men if they think that us women folk can be a little “drama-fied” and they will say Yup! If they make no comment it’s because they’re trying to avoid some……drama! What kind of drama am I talking about? I can see some of you women out there shaking your heads […]
By Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. Not everyone feels completely comfortable engaging in self-disclosure, even to the people we hold most dear. Early in a relationship it seems particularly difficult to know just how much to reveal to the other person. However, you would think that by the time a couple gets really close to each other, they’d […]
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By Cynthia James There’s a scientific explanation for why you can’t figure out what he’s thinking. Are men and women really that different? From my perspective, we are the same at the spiritual level; we all want to be loved, supported, seen and heard. We all want to be appreciated for our gifts and honored […]
By J.R. Bruns M.D. A new study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health by Dr. Rikke Lund of the Section of Social Medicine and Department of Public Health at the University of Copenhagen, in a study of 100,000 subjects, found that men are three times more likely to die prematurely from complications […]
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By Danielle B. Grossman, MFT Why do we fight with our partners? I’m not referring to small arguments that resolve reasonably quickly with a compromise. I am talking about fights that blow like a hurricane into a peaceful day and leave us broken, exhausted, and confused as we wonder, what just happened? These consuming and […]
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By Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC Unfortunately, it is all too common to stay in an unhealthy or toxic relationship. In fact, most people can relate to over-staying in a relationship with a partner who was not right for them, who displayed major red flags, or treated them poorly. Many admit to staying in a […]
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By Athena Staik, Ph.D. Communication is the life tool with which we may create and strengthen our relationships, and relationships are all about emotional safety and meaningful connections. Communication is a tool like no other. Whether verbal or nonverbal, it is to your emotional and mental health, and relationships, what food and water are to […]
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You can try and figure it out if you want to…..but beware….the man period IS NOT pragmatic. LOL. It just happens yall….oftentimes for unrelated, insignificant, and irrelevant reasons. Yes, we as men spazzz out and get into a funk sometimes that pollutes our whole environment. The wife can see it and feel it. The children […]
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Successful Relationships Don’t Walk A Straight Line
/in Ask The Maat's Real Questions...Real Answers, Communication, Conflict Management/byBy Ayize Ma’at If you look at any successful relationships and really study it…you will be amazed at how sophisticated, complex, structured, clean, and ……DIRTY their relationship has been. I intentionally highlighted dirty because folks have a general misunderstanding of what real love looks like. Yes it’s pretty as hell….but that beautiful diamond you’re looking […]
Relationship Rule To Break–“We Need To Resolve ALL Our Conflicts”
/in Conflict Management/byBy Norma Stevens Couples often come to counseling with the expectation that they must resolve all of their issues in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. This is simply not true. In fact, marriage researcher, John Gottman and his associates, find that 69% of a couple’s marital conflicts CANNOT be resolved! That’s right! You won’t […]
Relationships 101: Ladies! Listen Up! Stop All That Drama!!!
/in A Woman's Point Of View, Conflict Management/byBy Aiyana Ma’at Ask most men if they think that us women folk can be a little “drama-fied” and they will say Yup! If they make no comment it’s because they’re trying to avoid some……drama! What kind of drama am I talking about? I can see some of you women out there shaking your heads […]
Secrets Are Common Even In The Most Open Relationships
/in Communication, Conflict Management/byBy Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. Not everyone feels completely comfortable engaging in self-disclosure, even to the people we hold most dear. Early in a relationship it seems particularly difficult to know just how much to reveal to the other person. However, you would think that by the time a couple gets really close to each other, they’d […]
Accept It…We’re Wired Differently
/in Conflict Management/byBy Cynthia James There’s a scientific explanation for why you can’t figure out what he’s thinking. Are men and women really that different? From my perspective, we are the same at the spiritual level; we all want to be loved, supported, seen and heard. We all want to be appreciated for our gifts and honored […]
Warning: New Study Finds That Nagging Your Man May Lead To His Pre Mature Death
/in Conflict Management/byBy J.R. Bruns M.D. A new study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health by Dr. Rikke Lund of the Section of Social Medicine and Department of Public Health at the University of Copenhagen, in a study of 100,000 subjects, found that men are three times more likely to die prematurely from complications […]
6 Steps To Stop FEAR From Destroying Your Relationship
/in Conflict Management/byBy Danielle B. Grossman, MFT Why do we fight with our partners? I’m not referring to small arguments that resolve reasonably quickly with a compromise. I am talking about fights that blow like a hurricane into a peaceful day and leave us broken, exhausted, and confused as we wonder, what just happened? These consuming and […]
Why Do We Stay In Relationships We Should’ve Left A Long Time Ago?
/in Conflict Management, Divorce/byBy Rachel Dack, MS, LCPC, NCC Unfortunately, it is all too common to stay in an unhealthy or toxic relationship. In fact, most people can relate to over-staying in a relationship with a partner who was not right for them, who displayed major red flags, or treated them poorly. Many admit to staying in a […]
Overcoming The Road Blocks To Effective Communication
/in Communication, Conflict Management/byBy Athena Staik, Ph.D. Communication is the life tool with which we may create and strengthen our relationships, and relationships are all about emotional safety and meaningful connections. Communication is a tool like no other. Whether verbal or nonverbal, it is to your emotional and mental health, and relationships, what food and water are to […]
The Man Period IS NOT Pragmatic
/in Black Men, Communication, Conflict Management/byYou can try and figure it out if you want to…..but beware….the man period IS NOT pragmatic. LOL. It just happens yall….oftentimes for unrelated, insignificant, and irrelevant reasons. Yes, we as men spazzz out and get into a funk sometimes that pollutes our whole environment. The wife can see it and feel it. The children […]